"You can survive this. Talk to others that have"

StillLivin posted 2/12/2014 12:23 PM

Getting weird texts, phone calls, and emails from STBXH.
Hmmmm, wonder what's up? Is he drunk.
Pfffft, oh well. Calls go straight to VM, I don't check his VMs, texts aren't making any sense and neither are his emails.
WTFEva.
Just go away already....damn, guess unicorn fartland fantasy world isn't so wonderful.

StillLivin posted 2/12/2014 13:17 PM

Ok, apparently he isn't drunk. How was I to know. He was sending crazy texts (turned out it was typos and a little autocorrect). Then he started calling...goes straight to VM, so it unnerved him and made him want to call me more.
Bottom line, he is at the Dr's, probably something mildly serious, and he wanted Mami to hold his hand.
I didn't even solicit any of this info. I just sent him a return text that calling the bank drunk might not be a good idea and please stop calling, texting and emailing me while I was at work.
Shame on me for not answering my phone, responding to the first 4 or 5 texts, and not reading my personal email at work.
Double shame on me for not caring to ask where he was and why he was there.
Still don't know why, turned my phone off.

[This message edited by StillLivin at 1:18 PM, February 12th (Wednesday)]

SurelyNOT posted 2/12/2014 13:17 PM

Love your attitude.
Keep your head held high gurl.

StillLivin posted 2/12/2014 13:19 PM

Keep your head held high gurl.

I'm tryin, it seems to be getting easier. WTF, I can't believe I just said that. A few months ago, I was here crying the blues on how hard NC was and proudly quoting the blasts I was sending his way.
NC really does = no new hurts!

itainteasy posted 2/12/2014 13:31 PM

Awww poor widdle baby had a scary dr appt and needed someone to hold his hand?

Where was OW?

Didn't he fire you from the hand holding job? Oh that's right, he can be done with YOU, but how DARE you still not give two shits about whether or not he's alive!

Poor widdle baby.

devistatedmom posted 2/12/2014 14:40 PM

That NC works!

He needs to learn what boundaries are. You are the perfect teacher.

StillLivin posted 2/12/2014 14:41 PM

I wouldn't say perfect, I had to learn it the hard way, but I never make the same mistake twice....NEVER.
First time I learned the hard way was the last time.

newlysingle posted 2/12/2014 16:25 PM

He is really a piece of work. Where is that train wreck, Shrek? Is it possible that shmoopy land isn't all it was cracked up to be?

StillLivin posted 2/12/2014 17:30 PM

Where is that train wreck, Shrek?

Girl, no clue. I've been NC. He has been the one trying to get me to break NC.
He started some text about the taxes the other day. It's something different every few days. He keeps texting questions until he finds something I'll respond to.
The house is owned jointly until I sell after graduating. The taxes went up and it is rolled up into our mortgage. I sent him a copy of the bill. No words, just the statement.
He finally found something to get me to respond!
Hell, Shrek is so simple minded she was probably sitting right next to him the whole time he has been trying to engage me.
Started to wonder why he has been getting so excessive, but really, who cares.
I'm sure something is going on, but he isn't a part of my life anymore.
Let's see, he has texted about the life insurance...more than once, the house note, stuff about the truck I sold almost 2 months ago. Sometimes he reaches, I look at the text or email and ignore. Yesterday and today he got lucky cuz it was legit.
I'm getting to where I expect either an email or a text at least every OTHER day. I get phone calls too, but it goes straight to VM and I don't check my VMs but like 2X a month! His calls never ring so I have no idea how many times he has called me!

Poor widdle baby

[This message edited by StillLivin at 5:32 PM, February 12th (Wednesday)]

SBB posted 2/12/2014 18:24 PM

I'm tryin, it seems to be getting easier. WTF, I can't believe I just said that. A few months ago, I was here crying the blues on how hard NC was and proudly quoting the blasts I was sending his way.
NC really does = no new hurts!

Don't I know it!! Breaking NC keeps you in the quicksand and covered in the crazy. No wonder we can't see straight.

I look back and wonder WTF was wrong with me. That guy? THAT's the guy who had me on my knees? Really??

Stay strong.

My mantra:
There are no fish in this pond.
This pond has no water.
Fuck.Off.

StillLivin posted 2/13/2014 13:16 PM

Tee heee heee, I deleted his VMs without listening to them. He would be so pissed if he knew!

I no longer carry my phone EVERYWHERE with me JIK he calls. During the M, he HAD to have my constant attention and he would be soooo angry if he called and I didn't answer. Didn't matter what the excuse was.
LOL, and now I live a more honest and healthy life!
Let me not talk too much about him. You know the saying, speak of the devil and he comes aknockin.
SBB I always love your quips...see my tagline!

SurelyNOT posted 2/13/2014 13:21 PM

SBB Just love your mantra ^^^^^^^
You have such a funny spin on this horribleness.
Keep up the good work.
Best of Luck to ALL of us in this awful predicament.