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User Topic: I hate valentines day
gardens64
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Default  Posted: 7:12 PM, February 12th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I want to get a bb gun and pop all those damn balloons in the store. Ugh.

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tryingagain74
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Default  Posted: 7:31 PM, February 12th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I don't know why people put such stock in Valentine's Day. There's nothing wrong with getting each other a little card, maybe doing something else small for each other. I used to bake my XWH his favorite cookies; we rarely did anything big to "celebrate."

The more we elevate "holidays" like Valentine's Day, the more unrealistic expectations about it become. If we're single, then everyone else is in a romantic relationship where Valentine's Day is the Most Romantic Day Ever. If we're in a relationship, Valentine's Day is supposed to look like the jewelry commercials and romantic montages from the movies all wrapped in a box from Tiffany's. I know we've all heard our fair share of stories about how the woman expected a necklace but got socks instead (and whatever the male version of that story would be-- maybe he thought his significant other would wear some nice lingerie and give him some attention, but she fell asleep in a Valentine's Day chocolate stupor in front of the TV).

So, I say just enjoy some chocolate, and do something nice for yourself-- I am getting a manicure and some take out--and make Valentine's Day about appreciating you and your life. It doesn't need to be a projection of your feelings about someone else or a reason to feel bad because you're single. I'm quite happy to be single this Valentine's Day-- I get to do what I want, and since it's exactly what I want, I won't be the least bit disappointed. In fact, I might just go and buy myself some socks!


BS (Me) 39
Happily liberated!
Two DS and One DD
It matters not how strait the gate,/How charged with punishments the scroll./I am the master of my fate:/I am the captain of my soul.--"Invictus," William Ernest Henley

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Gemini71
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Default  Posted: 7:39 PM, February 12th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This about sums it up.


Edited to correct stupid typos.

Double Betrayal D-Day 7/26/2013
Divorced 11/18/2014

Two steps forward and one step backwards, is still progress.


Posts: 1958 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: Illinois, USA
gardens64
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Default  Posted: 7:41 PM, February 12th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yeah I never did anything big for the day. I am enjoying helping the kids make valentines for the class. it's just a big slap in the face that I have no romance in my life. I got replaced by a cheap rhymes with hut. Yuck

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gardens64
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Default  Posted: 7:42 PM, February 12th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ha! Love that sign Gemini71! That's one thing I missed out on thank god!

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tryingagain74
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Default  Posted: 7:45 PM, February 12th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I hear ya, but Valentine's Day is so overhyped and staged. You know what's romantic? When someone does something sweet for you that he/she knows you will love just BECAUSE. I don't want a prefab holiday on the calendar telling my love interest that he "has" to do x, y, and z for me. I'd rather he just do those things because he wants to since he knows it would make me happy (and vice-versa-- I used to bake my XWH his favorite cookies fairly often because I knew he enjoyed them, and it made him happy... I didn't need "VD" to get me to do that).

I saw that pic on FB earlier, Gemini. Love it!


BS (Me) 39
Happily liberated!
Two DS and One DD
It matters not how strait the gate,/How charged with punishments the scroll./I am the master of my fate:/I am the captain of my soul.--"Invictus," William Ernest Henley

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PhantomLimb
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Default  Posted: 9:02 PM, February 12th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My X got me a shovel for V-day one year. So it's not like I'm going to sense a huge loss in the appreciation department.

I bought myself some effing flowers today because to heck with it. And I'm enjoying getting things for my friends and godchildren. Nice to have a holiday to have an excuse to do things for people I care about.


BS / D

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GotPlayed
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Default  Posted: 9:56 PM, February 12th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Found this on Facebook. Love it.


Master of my Fate, Captain of my Soul.
Me: BH 42, Her: WW 41. 18y married
DD: 11/5/13
DS10 Autism, DD8
OM: Ex-con for DV. Now with new ROs!
Divorcing

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myowndystopia
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Default  Posted: 9:59 PM, February 12th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thought I was going to babysit the grands but the plans got changed. Maybe a pedicure is in my future!


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Him - WS (the Grub)
married 28 years/4 kids(mostly grown)

"'Cause there's a side to you that I never knew, never knew.
All the things you'd say, they were never true, never true "
Set Fire to the Rain
Adele


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Softcentre
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Default  Posted: 2:10 AM, February 13th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The children and I are going to make some gooey double choc brownies for the school staff and take them in tomorrow to say thank you for being so loving towards us over the last year and a half. Ds6 asked what Valentine's Day is, and I told him it's a day to show people how much you love and appreciate them & that it's especially nice to do something nice for people we may not say thank you to, the rest of the time....

...I'm also going to spoil the children with heart shaped cookies for breakfast tomorrow, but they don't know that


Me: BW
Him: STBXWH 'The Arse' - passive aggressive, tt'ing, gaslighting...multiple EA's with different women (1 'proven') and at least 1 PA

Took a while, but I like the me I am, without him.

"Until God opens the next do


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Vulcanized
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Default  Posted: 4:00 PM, February 13th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I always loved the Cheaters VD marathon. I don't think G4 does it anymore, tho.

I'm not a big fan of manufactured holidays, so, VD was never a big deal to me as an adult.


Me: MH 40s; Him: MH 40s (I had RA)
OW: 30s, moron; one of many
M: 8 yrs
3/13: D'd
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Everything is as it should be.

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