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gardens64 posted 2/12/2014 19:12 PM

I want to get a bb gun and pop all those damn balloons in the store. Ugh.

tryingagain74 posted 2/12/2014 19:31 PM

I don't know why people put such stock in Valentine's Day. There's nothing wrong with getting each other a little card, maybe doing something else small for each other. I used to bake my XWH his favorite cookies; we rarely did anything big to "celebrate."

The more we elevate "holidays" like Valentine's Day, the more unrealistic expectations about it become. If we're single, then everyone else is in a romantic relationship where Valentine's Day is the Most Romantic Day Ever. If we're in a relationship, Valentine's Day is supposed to look like the jewelry commercials and romantic montages from the movies all wrapped in a box from Tiffany's. I know we've all heard our fair share of stories about how the woman expected a necklace but got socks instead (and whatever the male version of that story would be-- maybe he thought his significant other would wear some nice lingerie and give him some attention, but she fell asleep in a Valentine's Day chocolate stupor in front of the TV).

So, I say just enjoy some chocolate, and do something nice for yourself-- I am getting a manicure and some take out--and make Valentine's Day about appreciating you and your life. It doesn't need to be a projection of your feelings about someone else or a reason to feel bad because you're single. I'm quite happy to be single this Valentine's Day-- I get to do what I want, and since it's exactly what I want, I won't be the least bit disappointed. In fact, I might just go and buy myself some socks!

Gemini71 posted 2/12/2014 19:39 PM

This about sums it up.

gardens64 posted 2/12/2014 19:41 PM

Yeah I never did anything big for the day. I am enjoying helping the kids make valentines for the class. it's just a big slap in the face that I have no romance in my life. I got replaced by a cheap rhymes with hut. Yuck

gardens64 posted 2/12/2014 19:42 PM

Ha! Love that sign Gemini71! That's one thing I missed out on thank god!

tryingagain74 posted 2/12/2014 19:45 PM

I hear ya, but Valentine's Day is so overhyped and staged. You know what's romantic? When someone does something sweet for you that he/she knows you will love just BECAUSE. I don't want a prefab holiday on the calendar telling my love interest that he "has" to do x, y, and z for me. I'd rather he just do those things because he wants to since he knows it would make me happy (and vice-versa-- I used to bake my XWH his favorite cookies fairly often because I knew he enjoyed them, and it made him happy... I didn't need "VD" to get me to do that).

I saw that pic on FB earlier, Gemini. Love it!

PhantomLimb posted 2/12/2014 21:02 PM

My X got me a shovel for V-day one year. So it's not like I'm going to sense a huge loss in the appreciation department.

I bought myself some effing flowers today because to heck with it. And I'm enjoying getting things for my friends and godchildren. Nice to have a holiday to have an excuse to do things for people I care about.

GotPlayed posted 2/12/2014 21:56 PM

Found this on Facebook. Love it.

myowndystopia posted 2/12/2014 21:59 PM

Thought I was going to babysit the grands but the plans got changed. Maybe a pedicure is in my future!

Softcentre posted 2/13/2014 02:10 AM

The children and I are going to make some gooey double choc brownies for the school staff and take them in tomorrow to say thank you for being so loving towards us over the last year and a half. Ds6 asked what Valentine's Day is, and I told him it's a day to show people how much you love and appreciate them & that it's especially nice to do something nice for people we may not say thank you to, the rest of the time....

...I'm also going to spoil the children with heart shaped cookies for breakfast tomorrow, but they don't know that

Vulcanized posted 2/13/2014 16:00 PM

I always loved the Cheaters VD marathon. I don't think G4 does it anymore, tho.

I'm not a big fan of manufactured holidays, so, VD was never a big deal to me as an adult.