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User Topic: Divorce thoughts...
FracturedSoul
♀ 41792
Member # 41792
Default  Posted: 11:33 PM, February 12th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Morning all,
WH and I had a mini fight last night...anyway, everytime this happens, I start thinking about divorce. Is this normal???


BS-34
FWH-34
Dating since 1997. Married since 2004.
DDay: 12 Sept 2012
4 OW from 2006-2012. Discovered all @ once.
Dday 2: 08 Nov 2014. There was more. Much more.

Posts: 74 | Registered: Dec 2013 | From: South Africa
1Emptyglass
♀ 37548
Member # 37548
Default  Posted: 12:09 AM, February 13th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Normal for me. We have been trying R for 2+ years and I still wonder if it is a deal breaker for me. Best of luck to you.


Me-BW 44
Him WH 44
OW single 54 co-worker
Married 21 years at d-day
kids: DD21 DS 17

Posts: 43 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: CA
Trying2Survive1
♀ 40022
Member # 40022
Default  Posted: 12:15 AM, February 13th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Normal for me too. There are still some days I wake up and think I can't deal with the whole situation


Madhatters, M 36 yrs, many DDays
Both 60's
We're in solid R, there is hope!
Stop right there: I already donít give a fuck ~ ty Greeneyesbluezy

Posts: 404 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: United States
iwillNOT
♀ 40605
Member # 40605
Default  Posted: 1:08 AM, February 13th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This happens for me too...then an hour and another conversation later, the feeling goes away. I think it just goes along with the roller coaster. I am starting to get the idea that if I wait it out then usually the" everything is doomed" outlook passes. Of course, it comes back next time


Me: BS, 46
Him: WH, 47
Together 24 years
4 amazing kids
Dday#1 2004, 3 years after EA/PA co-worker MOW
Dday#2 8-6-13, 13 months EA/9months PA with co-worker MOW - caught not confessed
Choosing myself daily and R almost every day

Posts: 698 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: Midwest
Dreamland
♀ 40488
Member # 40488
Default  Posted: 1:14 AM, February 13th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Normal for me.. Except now he is I'll so I won't divorce him. He has no family here came to this country because of me and so much history I just can't dump him while he's dying. But I think now if he were healthy maybe I would D. He loves me tells me daily he's sorry and how he fucked things up but somehow it just doesn't matter. I say I love you back because I do but I'm not in love with him. He killed that when he cheated.
:(


Me-BS 50 Him-WH 47, DD17
Together since 1993, Married 19 yrs
DDay 3/12,4/12,7/12 EA-PA OW - 25 single husband chasing bastard whore

Posts: 515 | Registered: Aug 2013
wert
♂ 34478
Member # 34478
Default  Posted: 8:44 AM, February 13th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yep. Thoughts are just those...thoughts.

take care...



Posts: 1518 | Registered: Jan 2012
rachelc
♀ 30314
Member # 30314
Default  Posted: 8:57 AM, February 13th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yep daily. A wise poster here says being in the "not divorcing" stage for a while is ok too.

Posts: 7613 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Midwest
million tears
♀ 24416
Member # 24416
Default  Posted: 9:06 AM, February 13th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I do this too. It's just a fleeting thought now, though.


2 year LTA-double betrayal, D-day 1-26-2009 and many months of TT.

Married 27 years. Together 29.

3 children 24, 21, 14

OW sex addict and romance addict according to MC. WH just your ordinary asshole.


Posts: 1673 | Registered: Jun 2009
FracturedSoul
♀ 41792
Member # 41792
Default  Posted: 9:11 AM, February 13th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you for the response everyone...at least I know this is 'normal' for us BS's.
Dreamland...I have often wondered about the loce vs in love thing...I relate to your statement today...feel like I've lost the loving feeling :(


BS-34
FWH-34
Dating since 1997. Married since 2004.
DDay: 12 Sept 2012
4 OW from 2006-2012. Discovered all @ once.
Dday 2: 08 Nov 2014. There was more. Much more.

Posts: 74 | Registered: Dec 2013 | From: South Africa
deena04
♀ 41741
Member # 41741
Default  Posted: 10:06 AM, February 13th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Normal for me, too. I go back and forth sometimes without a fight, just with my own thoughts.


Me FBS around 40
Him FWS early 40s (lovemywife4ever)
He cheated before M, forgot to tell me
"Free at last, free at last, thank God Almighty we are free at last" - MLK Jr

Posts: 2213 | Registered: Dec 2013 | From: Midwest
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