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strongerdaybyday posted 2/13/2014 08:22 AM

This is an update to post below (update is under original post):

I originally posted this in I Can Relate - OC but have yet to receive a response (I know people are busy ) But I was hoping to get some general advice here's the post:

Help. OW sent my mom a facebook message. Basically saying that H and I are heartless monsters and that I fabricated a fake DNA test saying he wasn’t the father to help him get out of his responsibility (I did NOT). She went on and on how karma will get us and she can’t wait to see him back in court. She also said that God is watching over her son and sees what we’re doing. This all happened after they had an argument and he said he wished he never met her, and, wished the kid wasn’t his because then he wouldn’t have to deal with her (he called her because someone sent a picture to him in the mail of her ex with the words “u sure?” on the back) and he assumed it was a game she was playing. Why message my mom? I was tempted to call her but whats the point. She said that I’m keeping father and son apart. Not once did I force NC on my H. That was his decision – I told him that while things aren’t the best right now we can work on us C or NC. He chose this but now she’s getting MY family involved. What do I do? I called the police re: restraining order but they said all I can do is file a complaint.
And his parents said don’t bother with the police either – bring the message to court. They said if we get police involved she may turn it around and say he hit her or something. She also took my childs pic from facebook and put it beside her sons and emailed my mom saying how much they look alike and that we're heartless monsters.

I know his fault was even calling her after receiving the picture but now what? I'm now concerned about how far she'll go - especially since she's looking up daughter on FB.

UPDATE - Police said there's nothing they can do. Posting a pic on FB makes it public domain, giving permission to anyone who wants to take her pic. They said I have to document every contact before I can file a complaint and it has to be A LOT of contact. Unless it gets physical or she threatens us we're shit out of luck. How nice OW gets to act like this and we can't do a thing. My DD pulled down her facebook as she was scared OW would find her location (we've moved since DDAY).

LosferWords posted 2/13/2014 11:25 AM

Hi stronger - Just wanted to bump your thread to let you know that you have been heard, and to hopefully get you some more replies.

I'm not sure what advice to offer. Have you talked to an attorney about all of this? At the very least, I would recommend documenting these incidents, complete with date/timestamps, in case you ever do need to build up some sort of lawsuit or provide evidence for a restraining order.

So sorry you are dealing with such craziness. Sending you strength.


hopefulmother posted 2/13/2014 11:36 AM

Bunny boiler much? File a complaint. Maybe call a lawyer and talk about harassment. I would go to the police station and ask for the chief of police.

steadfast1973 posted 2/13/2014 11:56 AM

Posting a pic on FB makes it public domain, giving permission to anyone who wants to take her pic.

Actually... I am photographer, and this is not true... the only implicit rights granted are to facebook, to display it. it is not "public domain". The copyright is retained by the person who took the picture. of course, you could sue her for copyright infringement, but it would really be an exercise in futility...

Now... it does sound like harassment. She has no business at all talking to your parents.

strongerdaybyday posted 2/13/2014 12:17 PM

I just wish she would stop lying and realize SHE is not the victim and her son is not the only child being hurt. I'm disgusted by her and her actions. Thanks for the responses all.

Jeaniegirl posted 2/13/2014 12:45 PM

And yet another reason I am not on Facebook -- and never will be.

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