Me-BW Him - WH
This is an update to post below (update is under original post):
I originally posted this in I Can Relate - OC but have yet to receive a response (I know people are busy
) But I was hoping to get some general advice here's the post:
Help. OW sent my mom a facebook message. Basically saying that H and I are heartless monsters and that I fabricated a fake DNA test saying he wasn’t the father to help him get out of his responsibility (I did NOT). She went on and on how karma will get us and she can’t wait to see him back in court. She also said that God is watching over her son and sees what we’re doing. This all happened after they had an argument and he said he wished he never met her, and, wished the kid wasn’t his because then he wouldn’t have to deal with her (he called her because someone sent a picture to him in the mail of her ex with the words “u sure?” on the back) and he assumed it was a game she was playing. Why message my mom? I was tempted to call her but whats the point. She said that I’m keeping father and son apart. Not once did I force NC on my H. That was his decision – I told him that while things aren’t the best right now we can work on us C or NC. He chose this but now she’s getting MY family involved. What do I do? I called the police re: restraining order but they said all I can do is file a complaint.
And his parents said don’t bother with the police either – bring the message to court. They said if we get police involved she may turn it around and say he hit her or something. She also took my childs pic from facebook and put it beside her sons and emailed my mom saying how much they look alike and that we're heartless monsters.
I know his fault was even calling her after receiving the picture but now what? I'm now concerned about how far she'll go - especially since she's looking up daughter on FB.
UPDATE - Police said there's nothing they can do. Posting a pic on FB makes it public domain, giving permission to anyone who wants to take her pic. They said I have to document every contact before I can file a complaint and it has to be A LOT of contact. Unless it gets physical or she threatens us we're shit out of luck. How nice OW gets to act like this and we can't do a thing. My DD pulled down her facebook as she was scared OW would find her location (we've moved since DDAY).
Married 6 years, together 13+ years
D-Day Summer 2013
If it is what it is then what is it?
**If I edit I'm correcting a typo!**