i feel the same way. my WS is trying soooo hard. he is doing everything. i dont know that it helps to move out for a while. i moved out from end of august until end of january. i dont feel like i know exactly what i should be doing and i regret a lot of my actions during our actual separation. i dated another man while we were separated (i was honest with my WS and the man i was dating about each other). i thought maybe that was another thing that might help me decide if it was better to stay or go.
i feel like there are so many people on this stupid roller coaster that are just screaming "tell me what to do! tell me what the right thing is!" and we know no one can tell us - but still find ourselves asking.
i am so afraid to make a decision that i will regret either way.
i am trying so hard - but when do you know if you just need to keep working and it will get better or if it's just done?