My DD17 just got sent to the principal for being disrespectful in class to her teacher. My DD15 is yelling and screaming and hitting everything that makes her mad, and blaming me now that she can't see her dad because he lives with the OW and her 4 kids and I specified that my kids were to have no contact with her, her kids, or her house in any way. Both have been sick and barely to school since this happened (thank goodness one week was mostly snow days or I'd be arrested for allowing truancy), they have been having pain throughout their bodies, and oldest has been sick for 10 months, with lots of doctors trying to figure out what is wrong (we are beginning to suspect MS now - after all this time). And WH nowhere to be found. He knew DD17 was going to have a heart monitor and EKG set up, and hasn't asked about it at all.
I hate that the kids are bearing the brunt of this awful time and that I can do nothing to help them. Both have intakes with IC this afternoon, so that could help. But I am only one person - I have help from my parents, but they don't really see how much pain this is for us b/c they always disliked WH and are happy he is "gone". They have less patience with my girls than I do and it just sucks.
When I'm home, all they want to do is cuddle with me - or fight with one another when they feel they haven't had enough time alone with me. There is so much screaming and yelling and hitting - so many pent up emotions that are bubbling to the surface and are really, really dangerous. I don't know what to do - and I have to be away all next week for work, so they will have to stay with my parents, which they don't really want to do.
I wish that F'ed up WH (STBXH) had REALLY thought through all of the consequences of his decision before he jumped - he only thought of his own, selfish and self-righteous self and his little head was doing all of the thinking. DAMN HIM!