SurvivingInfidelity.com Forum Archives

phoenixrivers posted 2/13/2014 15:57 PM

It's been six months since dday and our relationship seems to have settled down. However I'm in a tailspin over a phone call from the affair partner yesterday. The ww told me he called; she said she gave the phone to a co-worker. The co-worker told the ap number was hers.

It doesn't much matter to me at this point. I'm disillusioned with the continued intrusion into my life and am ready to pull the plug. I've got enough baggage already and don't need to drag the ap around for the time I have left.

Want2help posted 2/13/2014 16:57 PM

The co-worker told the ap number was hers.

Wait a second...

So the so-worker gave the AP your WW's phone number, under the guise that it was the co-worker's phone number? Or did AP ask for your WW's phone number?

Did your wife talk to the AP? If she claims that she did not, I would be checking phone records.

Uhtred posted 2/13/2014 18:06 PM

I'd say to whip his ass but that may land you in some trouble. Why can't you have her change her contact information completely? Assuming that she's willing to do that.

My wife got a new number and only put in the contacts that I approved of. That being our family and real friends.

phoenixrivers posted 2/14/2014 15:31 PM

thanks Want2help & Uhtred. Sorry I didn't make myself clear but the ww gave her phone to the co-worker when she realized it was the ap who had called and asked the co-worker to claim that the number was now hers and NOT the ww's. So that at least was smart.

I think your suggestion Uhtred is the best of all. She actually already suggested a new number; I'll bring up putting in only approved contacts.

Thanks guys.

phoenixrivers

Uhtred posted 2/14/2014 17:21 PM

I hope it works out brother.

mandala posted 2/14/2014 18:05 PM

OW texted a love poem to my WH 2 months after he first messaged her that it was over and we were working on our marriage.

We went the next day and had his number changed. No big deal. No questions asked. Apparently people do it all the time.

His phone was messing up so we got a new one of those as well (two months early on the contract but the fee was waived), so when people asked why the new number, he just said he'd gotten a new phone. Sometimes he would jokingly say he was making sure the bill collectors couldn't find him. Most people didn't ask.

As for OW, we unblocked her temporarily from facebook and sent another NC message while she was online more strongly worded and told her his number was changed. She claimed it had been an "accident" while she was deleting messages and she respected his decision and wouldn't try to contact him again. Yeah right