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Since I found out. WH is doing everything right, he's been telling me everything I want to know (and I mean everything, all the dirty details), he's being truely remorseful, helping around the house and spending more time with me. We're probably going to get into counseling within the next month when we get everything figured out with insurance and whatnot, and he's ok with whatever he has to do to keep me he says. I'm slowly starting to feel better but I can't shake the feeling that I NEED to beat the living hell out of these girls! I didn't feel that way at first as logically I thought my husband is the one who really wronged me and these girls made it seem like he took advantage of them and told them he and I were not together. I found out pretty quickly that both of them didn't think that at all, they in fact knew we were still very much together and still married. Even after I found that out I didn't much care to do anything to them, but as time has gone on it has just built up. The first girl, the one he just had a ONS with, I've already gone off on her via text message because she was bragging to people at WH's work that she "called his wife and she kicked him out and they're getting a divorce" blah blah blah and I just couldn't help myself. I had already seen her out in town twice by this point and just ignored her, but I told her she better hope I never saw her again and to shut up and mind her own business basically or I was gonna shut her up myself lol. The other girl, the COW, I can't stop stalking her FB page and she's just so damn smug and immature and even posted once about her friends won't talk to her "ever since those RUMORS went around" (um excuse me, bitch, but those were in no way RUMORS, you are in reality a home wrecking whore). I know she is trying to protect her own BH's reputation because they're trying to R as well, but I don't care. I want to beat them both like damn MEN, none of that hair pulling/slapping/scratching girly crap. I have yet to see the COW out in town and I hope I never do because I really don't want to go to jail for assault, and honestly I'm kinda scared of how badly I would hurt her. She never worked or anything before the MONTH that she worked with my WH and I can tell by looking at her that she couldn't lift anything heavier than her 1 year old, so I know she's weak. And after saying that, I'm only scared of how badly I'd hurt her because I know it's technically wrong to do so and I would get in trouble legally, other than that I don't care and just want to beat her bloody. Who else feels this way and how crazy as hell am I for wanting to be so violent toward these women?!

I don't think this is crazy though, you know, don't go doing it or anything! Taking the high road doesn't feel as satisfying as revenge seems like it would be, but pays off in the long run.

I suspect this is a phase, especially since perhaps with your WH acting right you don't want to be angry at him despite his moral lapse here being far far worse.

Take a kickboxing class and imagine you're punching the women if you must; I am sure you know that actually hurting them couldn't change the situation you're in anyway.

[This message edited by norabird at 11:04 AM, February 14th (Friday)]

I waver between forgiving the OW and wanting to scream at her and slap her. I am soooo glad she lives in NY and I am in WA. I don't know what I would do if I had to see her out and about in my town!

I have no words of advice at all for you, only that I am sorry.

Lol thanks, guys. Yeah I know I can't actually do anything I just want to soooooo bad! Ugh. I hate what my WH did but WHY can't women stay the hell away from other women's husbands?!? I just really hope karma bites both of them in the ass and some slutty young things start looking in THEIR husbands' directions. That's horrible to wish on someone, but at this point I'm just really not sorry.