"You can survive this. Talk to others that have"

BlackIce posted 2/13/2014 22:16 PM

it's also our 19th anniversary. i asked if we were doing anything and said i was okay if we just stayed in because things have been so stressful. on top of all this OEA stuff he also has court for some trouble he got into. now he is planning dinner and all this stuff since i mentioned it and i really don't know if i want to even celebrate it yet at the same time i would be upset if we didn't. i just don't know.

scarednbroken posted 2/13/2014 22:18 PM

It's a mixed bag of emotions when in limbo.

((((Hugs)))

BAB61 posted 2/14/2014 00:05 AM

(((BlackIce))) Be honest about your ambivalence, let him know it's iffy for you right now. You want to do the things you used to do as a couple, but the future is unsure and that leaves you feeling uncertain.

WhatsRight posted 2/14/2014 07:11 AM

Do what YOU want.

My dday was Feb 12. 2 days before Valentines Day. I was in shock. I sent him a dozen red roses - my usual to him.

Now I look back and think...WTF??? Even he was in disbelief.

I was just in shock.

Do what feels right to YOU.

BlackIce posted 2/14/2014 12:48 PM

thanks. i told him considering what has been going on that i would be fine not doing anything but he is insisting and acted like i hurt his feelings. i don't know how to deal with him right now cause he is being so clingy and keeps telling me he's sorry. his emotions are all over the place. it's exhausting.

Morhurt posted 2/14/2014 12:54 PM

This

but he is insisting and acted like i hurt his feelings

is very selfish behaviour. You did not hurt his feelings, he did! This should NOT be about him!

edited for clarity

[This message edited by Morhurt at 12:55 PM, February 14th (Friday)]