SurvivingInfidelity.com Forum Archives

Return to Forum List

F U, Valentine's Day

You are not logged in. Login here or register.

Tripletrouble posted 2/14/2014 05:49 AM

and a big F U to :

Hallmark
Cheaters
people posting all their happy happy flowers and hearts on FB

Ugh.

cayc posted 2/14/2014 06:49 AM

(((tripletrouble)))

Yeah, I won't be doing too much FB reading today either.

Chippednotbroken posted 2/14/2014 07:21 AM

Just another day, I'm going to watch Robocop, by myself

welcome14 posted 2/14/2014 07:44 AM

Even if you don't read FB, it gets you anyway. First thing this morning, a colleague showed me a pic on her phone of the flowers she got...aww, how sweet. Not. I did get Godiva truffles and a card from my DD, so that was nice....and in true SI fashion, she stuffed the card with glitter! I guess she really does enjoy the Christmas card exchange...

justjim posted 2/14/2014 07:49 AM

Ladies, as a guy is is used to going "all out" for Valentine's Day with suddenly no one to do anything for...

I wish you all peaceful comfort today. I hope you take a moment to do something nice for yourself.

This is for each of you:


Lola2kids posted 2/14/2014 09:45 AM

Awww, Jim, that is so nice!!!

Hugs to all my SI Valentines.

littlefoggy posted 2/14/2014 10:01 AM

people posting all their happy happy flowers and hearts on FB

Especially them.

WoundedOpus posted 2/14/2014 10:24 AM

It's my 6 year antiversary today....

Double F U Valentine's Day!!

Must Survive posted 2/14/2014 10:45 AM

I'm with LittleFoggy.

I hate this made up holiday.

Sidebar: Thanks JustJim.

Tripletrouble posted 2/14/2014 20:48 PM

This day totally lived up to my sucky expectations. Thanks for the nice sentiments though

myowndystopia posted 2/14/2014 21:21 PM

My STBXWH never did much anyway for valentines day. I'm sure he is tonight though. Gotta impress the AP! But I would like to thank my 22 yr old son for the lovely flowers he brought me. (He is last semester in college, gets automatic deposit weekly into his account from his dads for spending $ so really I guess his dad, aka STBXWH, unbeknownst to him- bought me flowers )

SBB posted 2/14/2014 23:37 PM

One of my gay best friends sent me a photo of testicles in the shape of a heart.

Best.Funniest.Valentines.Gift.Ever.

yestopants posted 2/15/2014 00:31 AM

FU Valentine's day
I felt sick all day thinking of how romantic STXWH would be with AP when he never bothered with me. But then I realized he is broke so she probably did all the work, like I did. Regardless, family and friends got me my fav chocolates and beer! I didn't have to do shit which was nice for a change! I love my people they are amazing.
still F U Valentines day.
yes...I dipped into the sauce (beer) and I'll keep reading and posting here instead of doing something CrAzY. love you guys! it's truly amazing what a;obol does to an introvert

nekorb posted 2/15/2014 06:50 AM

Thank goodness for WH's aunt, who sent my daughter and I each a little tiny valentine day heart that said, "You are loved" on it.

It's all I got.

He didn't even think to get the kids a bit of candy or anything. I got candy bars for the kids and WH to put at their places at the dinner table. I also got WH a card and a special candy that he likes but can't find very often and I happened to see it.

When he saw the card, etc on our bed he said, "I thought we weren't doing anything for a day?". I said, "We never discussed it.". I left it at that. I think he felt bad. I didn't expect anything. We aren't in R and he's just waiting to leave.

In the past that convo above would have been where I would have jokingly said, "you must have been having that conversation with your girlfriend!". I didn't say it because it's probably absolutely true, and therefore not funny anymore.

I was just hurt and sad. I have no right to be. It isn't as if he hasn't said to me over and over that he doesn't want me. I guess it's just that when he also talks about wanting to do what is right in God's eyes and goes to Bible study every week I think at some point he is going to realize that adultery actually isn't part of God's plan.

:::sigh:::

Next year will be better.

NeedsHope posted 2/15/2014 08:05 AM

(((((nekorb))))) Hugs. I can feel your sadness in your post.

I was surrounded by happy couples and hearts and flowers and champagne. I felt awful, terrible and sad. Sure enough, the OW posted pics of the flowers she got from my ex. People that I know through our relationship replied asking where she got the flowers with a wink. They know he's with her now. I wonder what he told them that he could just pop up with her and nothing seems off. I hate that none of his friends cares about what happened to me. I have been there for years for his friends and nothing. I understand but I hate it.

I wonder if he went to the florist where he used to get my flowers. Or did he just go to Costco. I think he went to Costco and told her he went somewhere better, honestly she wouldn't know the difference. The florist would remind him of me. I remember him telling me he never bought flowers until me. I know now that was a lie. I hate what he has done to me and that I'm heartbroken. I loved Valentine's day even before him. He used to tell me it was just a day but he did things for me because he knew I would love it. Now he's doing it for her.I hate that he is taking the things I loved and giving them to the OW. It is so unfair. I hope I can love it again.

jemimapd posted 2/15/2014 09:23 AM

I'm heartbroken to read some of these posts.

I didn't get anything either, not even a card.

BUT

Our value does not come from gifts and cards. It comes from being us, pure and simple.

Some of the people who make the biggest gestures (my ex) do so to cover up their lack of truth and authenticity.

It's over. You survived. Congratulations!

Someone once told me that the brightest diamonds are the ones you buy yourself. I can't afford diamonds right now but I did use an Earhfare coupon to buy myself some Valentines flowers and you know, they are more beautiful than any flowers my ex bought me because they were bought with genuine emotion,

So.... Go get some candy or some flowers or some nail polish and know that next year WILL BE BETTER!

Return to Forum List

© 2002-2018 SurvivingInfidelity.com ®. All Rights Reserved.     Privacy Policy