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I want to say thank you to you all for being supportive. I am sending good vibes for today. I am treating myself to lunch and a salon/spa day. I told my hubby I didn't want to celebrate and he's upset about it, so we will see if I change my mind.

I didn't want to celebrate and he's upset about it, so we will see if I change my mind.

He's upset?

Go enjoy the spa day and think about YOUR needs!!

ICR. Our first V day after Dday, my husband brought home wine, a card, and a cake. He was so mad that I wasn't appreciative that he smashed the wine and cake on the garage floor and threw the card in the trash as he left the house. For us, V days is also the anniversary of when he drove 350 miles in a snowstorm to have sex with his AP for the first time, so it was a REALLY bad day. That was four years ago today.

Luckily he's gotten much better since then! But I'm still unable to do anything with this day except wish it didn't exist...

I had to start psyching myself up for v day about a week or so ago. He took me out to dinner, had 18 long stemmed roses delivered, blah,blah,.blah. I enjoyed it to a point and was glad he made the effort, but, I would have much rather have spent the $100 he spent on flowers buying him books to read or us as a couple. I didn't want to spoil what he was trying to do, but at the same time, I would have loved and appreciated it more if he would have told me he was ready to dive into the books I already have.

We went out for dinner a 2 weeks ago. A nice dinner at a place we hadn't been at downtown and then went back to the house and watched a movie.

We have always done something early for vday... because its such a mad house to go out on the 14th. Today she is surprising me with something. She said she would text me the address later. Excited.

We are (hopefully) going to Retrovaille. The family who is taking care of our son has had upchucking kids, though. So, ya'll cross you fingers for no viruses, and that we get there, please!

FWW got up from a warm bed 2 hours early this morning to drive me to work so I did not need to bike in the 45 F degree temperature this morning. I understand that 45 degrees sounds balmy to some of you in the North right now, but to us in here in Paradise it is painful, especially with the wind chill from pedaling 15 - 20 mph.

This was a truly heartfelt and appreciated gift from her. I think she gets raspberry cheesecake tonight.

Go him a loving card and DVD set . He got me nothing. Do I look surprised? Why did I expect ant different? First VD after DDay supposed to pretend like it didn't happen. (I wanna type FTG but don't even have the emotions left for that - it would take anger and I only have pain and sorrow left)

He wants to do this romantic night and I want to have a night alone! The kids and him can stay home and I will have a quiet dinner. Ha. I will probably do something; just not sure what yet.