Hi norabird. It's normal that you feel this way. I just had a conversation with my wife about 10 minutes ago discussing last VDay. Neither one of us are VDay people. In fact early on in our relationship she told me rather than periodically spend a lot of money on VDay flowers and all the other stuff on one day, she would rather have that money spent throughout the year on flowers and other things. So that's what I do and then some!!!
That said, this time last year the relationship part of our marriage was really hurting. For both of us. My wife just told me that last VDay, even though she's not a VDay person, all of the reminders that she got to see at work and all the conversations about it all day long really made her sad. Especially at that time when she (and I) felt very lonely in our marriage. She said she cried. We are in a much better place now together, but obviously it was still hard on her if she mentioned it to me today. I did send her a very special note today that made her cry in a good way. She too is going out with a dear friend of hers tonight while I stay home with the kiddos.
It's normal reaction to go there in your head today. Holidays do that for me with family stuff too.
On the bright side, go have fun with your friends tonight! I'll be thinking of you.
ETA - had to add the "and then some!!!" above.
[This message edited by yearsofpain25 at 8:10 AM, February 14th (Friday)]