This morning after she takes our DD to school she comes home and accuses me of stealing thirty dollars from her wallet. I WTF'd right back to sleep and she ran off to file her answer to my divorce petition.
She doesn't trust me, me, I've never done anything to warrant a lack of trust, projecting much!
OM#1-4 Dday 2/17/2014 pre-marriage
OM#5 - Dday 2/17/2014 <new info>
OM#6 - Dday 4/30/2006
OM#7 - Dday 1/29/2014
DD - 6yo
Filed for D 2/10/2014
False R 6/2014
My WW says she can't trust me, but she can't give me an example of any time that I lied to her. Because there isn't one!
[This message edited by RealityStinks at 10:14 AM, February 14th (Friday)]
Finally reached indifference & looking forward to my new beginning
Never underestimate what a wayward mindset is capable of doing.
I think it might be a good idea for you to go over to the Divorce/Separation forum. Lots of smart people there, who are walking down the same path that you are.
All work and no play has just cost me my wife--Gary Puckett
Accepting that I can may end this marriage 7/2/14
Heading for D
I learned that the hard way. My ex was accusing me of bribing the kids to keep secrets from him. Then I found out he had involved the kids in his affair, had them hanging out with OW and her son for over a year before I had even heard of her, and he had forced them to lie to me, fed them elaborate stories to explain where they had been, told them I would be mad if they talked about seeing her or told me where they really were, threatened them, and bribed them with toys and superheroes. So he accused me of messing with the kids' heads, when that was exactly what he had been doing.
I agree to check your finances. And pay close attention to things she accuses you of. I wouldn't spend any time defending yourself against crazy accusations when your time is better spent figuring out how she is guilty of them..
I think it might be a good idea for you to go over to the Divorce/Separation forum.
I think that is the forum that I posted this in, maybe someone moved it for me.
I agree that is transference. My STBX would accuse me of squandering money, when I was buying groceries (bulk and on sale, using coupons) and clothes (at thrift stores, on sale and using coupons) for my kids. HE was the one spending money on 2 nights at a pricey resort with one of his slunts.
Don't leave your wallet where she can get it.