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veronique12 posted 2/14/2014 10:31 AM

OW has tried to make direct contact with H, about 2 months after NC was established. She sent him an IM saying "help pls." H told me right away and has blocked her so she couldn't send another. Really glad he told me but I can't help but feel anxiety about what her next move might be. She's obviously attention starved and is trying to manipulate him into contact.

She did favorite a tweet of his on Twitter last month using her company account and H has blocked that too.

Seems like she's getting a little bolder. Wonder if I'll be getting a knock on the door soon. Ugh!

tushnurse posted 2/14/2014 10:55 AM

(((V)))

You have many things to be happy about here. Number one being you H telling you immediately. That is just an awesome thing.

Lovedyoumore posted 2/14/2014 10:57 AM

The OW tried this for months. She emailed, called, randomly showed up at places where she knew we would be, left notes and gifts outside my H office door and with the receptionist. It was pathetic. My H's IC was very emphatic that we stay NC and never give her any attention. He likened it to feeding a vampire and we had to starve it. It was very hard, but my H brought me every little gift and note she left. The email account she was using came directly to me and my H forwarded every text she sent. She kept it up for months. The last time she showed her face in person she actually walked into our church one Sunday morning.

Keep NC, but keep evidence of any contact she makes, just in case you need it.

veronique12 posted 2/14/2014 11:13 AM

Yes, tush, I do feel happy about it. Him coming clean about anything on his own is a big step. He looked absolutely terrified when telling me. I guess he thought I would fly off the handle, but instead I thanked him.

Yikes, lovedyoumore! Praying OW doesn't have 1/100 of that persistence. She is kooky but prefers a more sneaky underhanded approach.

SorrowBhindSmile posted 2/14/2014 11:21 AM

The fact that your WH told you immediately, blocked her # and such is huge. Your response was huge too. You created a safe place for your WH...he felt like he could tell you.....your WH created a safe place for you by telling you. Working together...open, honest, transparent.

Keep up with the crickets. No contact. ignore it all. the stress and anxiety of wondering what her next move will be is nerve wracking. i lived with it for over 6 months. I feel your pain. Stay strong. she will go away eventually

hugs to you!