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♀ 40396
Member # 40396
Default  Posted: 10:59 AM, February 14th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

DH and I got into a very heated argument last night. I'm distraught! We decided that this isn't going to work anymore. I'm scheduled to get off of work early today and have been thinking of just disappearing for the day and returning home tomorrow. I'm thinking of heading to the coast...which is about 2 hours away. I've never just taken off without saying where I am going...and now I have this urge within to just leave and take some time for myself. My son is with DH and will be taken care of so he is not my concern right now. I'm just kinda scared... scared because I don't want him to throw it in my face as to how selfish I am being by just taking time for myself....

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DDAY2: 05/2013

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♀ 25001
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Default  Posted: 11:02 AM, February 14th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You absolutely need some time to yourself. You're not being selfish in doing so. Go, relax, meditate, whatever you need to do to clear your head. Like you said, your son is with you husband and will be cared for.


Me - BS, 40 (I'm not old...I'm vintage)
Two Wonderful children - DS11, DD8
Getting my ducks in a row for divorce... finally (4+ D-Days too many - listed in profile.)

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♀ 41992
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Default  Posted: 11:19 AM, February 14th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have done this and I say go. I left in the middle of the nite, drove aimlessly for 4-5 hours, then slept in my car for a few hours. Ended up at a hotel and the checking lady could not have been nicer. Even though it was only 1030 in the morning, she looked at me and said " you need a hug, a warm shower, and a bed" which just made me cry harder. But, I got a room and stayed for 48 hours. It was one of the few times in the last 4 months that I truly slept. So, please go. It was worth it for me and I did come home stronger.

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WH - him
married over 25 years

Posts: 98 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: USA
♀ 42092
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Default  Posted: 11:23 AM, February 14th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This is not selfishness, it's self-care. Big, massive difference. And if it's over, he can't throw anything in your face anymore. Freedom! There are upsides to it.

Find a nice place on the coast, go there, pamper yourself, and don't bother informing him. You get to do you now.

Sit. Feast on your life.

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