I'm sure the girl from 1993 wasn't that great either. A supposed college girl at a bar. If she were that "cute" then why wasn't she out on a date? I imagine beer goggles helped with that one. Grrr.
But there really is no factor that if changed would make things magically better. Just a different kind of awful.
Former 80s Icon wishful thinking
I do know what you mean, though. When I finally found a picture of the OW I had this conversation with FWH.
Me: Is this OW?
FWH: Yes, and OW doesn't look good/hasn't aged well.
Me. Oh, no. I am in trouble now.
FWH: What do you mean?
Me: Well, apparently you'll fuck anything!
"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak!" ~ Homer Simpson
XWH was (and still is) a pathetic human being and the only good choice in partners he ever made was marrying me.
WH#2 (SorryinSac)- Killed himself in our home 10 days after being served divorce docs.
XWH #1 - legally married 18yrs. 12+ OW (that I know of).
I edit often for clarity/typos.
I am OCD about trying to make this CRAP make sense to me.
It doesn't make sense, don't drive yourself crazy trying to make sense of it. You can't make sense out of nonsense.
Married 27 years. Together 29.
3 children 24, 21, 14
OW sex addict and romance addict according to MC. WH just your ordinary asshole.
So clearly, none of it is about looks. It's about who he can con. She's now in for the ride of her life. Hah!
Just very there.
Taught my fWH a hard lesson and helped me to understand and believe it when he said it was just a body albeit a really homely one. OW is called either psycho bitch or miss piggy if that tells you anything.
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You can't make sense out of nonsense.
SisterMilkshake - SO TRUE. Just SO hard to truly digest!!!
OW had a baby. We do not know if my H is the father.
Together: 16 years
Kids: 3 beautiful boys. Ages: 11, 6, 3
Limbo 2 + years after dday
But it had nothing to do with her looks or her personality. It was opportunity, the fact that she was there. Although I do point out from time to time how embarrassed he must be to know he was with such an ugly woman.
What really got to me was one he was PAYING for was about 60 years old (I'm 43), very much looked like her age, and had been rode really hard those years. I thought crap he is paying for that?!?!?
OW1 was not attractive. They had sex on a mattress on the floor, while drunk. Gross.
OW2 was a model. She's gorgeous, and her pictures are on the internet. I found a message from my ex to his brother stating that he cheated on me with her because she was hot. That one really bothered me a lot. I kept picturing him with her, and thinking that he probably thought my body didn't even come close to comparing to hers. I felt ugly, and it really hurt my self-confidence. There was nothing he could say to make me feel better either. If he said that I was prettier, I knew he was lying because I can see her with my own eyes. If he said that she was prettier, I wanted to hit him. He lost no matter what he said.