It also doesn't help that Monday is her birthday. For the last 11 years, this time was spent sweeping her off her feet for V-day while secretly planning a birthday get together of some kind among family and friends. I've found I miss this more than I ever suspected.
Our Anniversary is less than a month away. Just when I thought I was turning a corner, the milestones start coming and the wound becomes fresh yet again.
Anyway, I hope some of you are able to have a better day.
I know my WH is spending today on a "date" with his OW. They set it up Wednesday. He had the gumption to send me a mushy card, and when I texted thank you.... He asked, "Are we OK?" Seriously??? You are going to go do god knows what with another woman behind my back, and you ask me if we are ok.... No we aren't. But I just said... "As long as you are not keeping anything from me, we are fine."
(((SoulHurts))) I hope you can eventually enjoy your days rather than count how many have gone by. You deserve to be a happy person.
But, I've been through several "firsts" since D-day, so this one isn't so raw. First Thanksgiving, company party, Christmas, and New Years without her. So, V-day is more "whatever" than sad.
Time, buddy. It takes time.
Hang in there man and go read your "When you start to miss your soon to be Ex" post.
I know my WH is spending today on a "date" with his OW. They set it up Wednesday. He had the gumption to send me a mushy card, and when I texted thank you.... He asked, "Are we OK?" Seriously???
Damn. Yeah, seriously? You're so much more deserving.
I feel you... This is my first Valentine's Day as a single person in 10 years. I truly hope that they get easier...
New chapter of my life- married 11/13/15 to the man I'd thought I would never find.
Throw me to the wolves and I'll return leading the pack.
As much as I try to shut it out, there's that little bit of hope that my bastard brain keeps around that maybe one of these special occasions will be what knocks her out of the fog. I know I cannot hold onto that, and I don't know that I really even want that at this point.
I do the EXACT same thing. I already thought about it today. I even hoped that filing for D might shake her, but it doesn't seem to have had any effect. (I did not file as a scare tactic, and I'm prepared to follow through). I thought the same thing about New Years. It was the first one since 2003 that I didn't kiss her at midnight. First Christmas since 2002 that I wasn't with her. So, I get what you're hoping for, but don't bet on it.
Hang in there man.
I'm trying not to scream at my WH about what a liar he is - telling me he is going to be late today because he is busy at work.
We all know busy at work = screwing OW while I'm supposed to be working so I have to be here longer.
I wish he just wouldn't say anything.
I'm making a nice dinner for us and the kids tonight. The kids asked me earlier in the week what we (WH and I) were doing for v-day and when I said nothing they were like :::gasp:;; why not? I simply said that dad didn't want to take me out. That I had asked him to take me to a movie and he said no.
I'm done covering for him.
Your WW doesn't deserve a special birthday weekend. Plan something awesome for YOURSELF.