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NoGoodUsername posted 2/14/2014 16:18 PM

Fair warning, this is going to be a little out there. Kind of a vent, kind of taking a stand.

F* that guy. You know, the one that instead of working on his marriage when things got a little rough planted his flag next to someone else.

F* that guy. The one that thought arranging to add someone else to the bedroom would actually solve a problem instead of making things worse than they ever would have been before.

F* that guy. The one that put his jollies and his bruised little feel-bads ahead of the most important thing his wife ever did in her life.

F* that guy. The one that spent so many years gorging on cake and ego kibble that that he forgot what honesty tasted like.

That guy was the wayward me and he's not welcome around here. He did a lot of bad things and broke our marriage, broke me and broke my BW. There are a lot of things that need to be tossed, fixed and replaced because of him and it's going to be forever in the building.

There is nothing more important to work on in the world than our Garden; there is only one place to plant a flag.

There is only room in the bed for her, the cats and me, if they let me.

There is no little hurt, no little pleasure that will ever compare to the things that we build with each other.

There is no cake that I like better than my wife and I find that I've lost my taste for kibble.

Let's till the soil, grow some vegetables, plant some flowers. I want to feel the sunlight on my face and leave no recess for secrets to hide in.

I'm not fixed yet but I'm committed. F* that guy, let's walk in the sun.

SisterMilkshake posted 2/14/2014 16:32 PM

marionwendy posted 2/14/2014 16:46 PM

Your awesome! Wish my WH would write me this note!

Joanh posted 2/14/2014 19:17 PM

That is good:-)

CantLoseHope posted 2/14/2014 19:19 PM

I give major props to you!

3xloser posted 2/14/2014 19:46 PM

Good for you. I've met that guy in myself. F him too.

LA44 posted 2/14/2014 20:21 PM

Love. This.

Well done NGU.

5674emt posted 2/14/2014 21:21 PM

tesla posted 2/14/2014 21:31 PM

newnormal posted 2/14/2014 21:53 PM

Sadmumma posted 2/15/2014 00:45 AM

You made me cry.

But more power to you to see it and become a better person.

All WS should read that, daily.

BrokenButTrying posted 2/15/2014 01:14 AM

This is wonderful

sinsof thefather posted 2/15/2014 02:10 AM

Great post!

mindbody posted 2/15/2014 07:07 AM

Sharing this with WSO. Love the message.

Aubrie posted 2/15/2014 09:52 AM

Nice vent NGU. Good stuff.

Prayingforhope posted 2/15/2014 18:14 PM

Brilliant...

Stillheart posted 2/16/2014 08:10 AM

Great message and attitude for positive change.

LifeIsTooWeird posted 2/17/2014 11:37 AM

F* that guy indeed! But praise be to the woman who helped you come to terms with that realization. The cats on the other hand may be harder to persuade, because they held her while she cried, they watched you, judged you, they watched her, they sympathized, and those animals sometimes have a harder time forgetting and forgiving like us betrayeds. Waywards underestimate the bonds that grow stronger between a betrayed and their helpless dependents when the wayward is not there. When you have the cats approval again you'll know you are indeed home. Best of luck on your continuing growth in life, love and feline psychology.