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NoGoodUsername (original poster member #40181) posted at 10:18 PM on Friday, February 14th, 2014
Fair warning, this is going to be a little out there. Kind of a vent, kind of taking a stand.
F* that guy. You know, the one that instead of working on his marriage when things got a little rough planted his flag next to someone else.
F* that guy. The one that thought arranging to add someone else to the bedroom would actually solve a problem instead of making things worse than they ever would have been before.
F* that guy. The one that put his jollies and his bruised little feel-bads ahead of the most important thing his wife ever did in her life.
F* that guy. The one that spent so many years gorging on cake and ego kibble that that he forgot what honesty tasted like.
That guy was the wayward me and he's not welcome around here. He did a lot of bad things and broke our marriage, broke me and broke my BW. There are a lot of things that need to be tossed, fixed and replaced because of him and it's going to be forever in the building.
There is nothing more important to work on in the world than our Garden; there is only one place to plant a flag.
There is only room in the bed for her, the cats and me, if they let me.
There is no little hurt, no little pleasure that will ever compare to the things that we build with each other.
There is no cake that I like better than my wife and I find that I've lost my taste for kibble.
Let's till the soil, grow some vegetables, plant some flowers. I want to feel the sunlight on my face and leave no recess for secrets to hide in.
I'm not fixed yet but I'm committed. F* that guy, let's walk in the sun.
Me: WH
Her: BW
Dday 7/11/13
"May you be protected from hearts that are not humble, tongues that are not wise and eyes that have forgotten how to cry."
SisterMilkshake ( member #30024) posted at 10:32 PM on Friday, February 14th, 2014
BW (me) & FWH both over half a century; married several decades; children
d-day 3/10; LTA (7 years?)
"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak." ~ Homer Simpson
marionwendy ( member #41303) posted at 10:46 PM on Friday, February 14th, 2014
Your awesome! Wish my WH would write me this note!
BS-52
WS-53
Married-25
Together-25
Children-2
Life is not measured by the breaths we take
but by the moments that take our breath away.
Joanh ( member #39146) posted at 1:17 AM on Saturday, February 15th, 2014
BH 39
WW 43
D day November 9, 2012
3 children 22, 8, 6
Just....
CantLoseHope ( member #42356) posted at 1:19 AM on Saturday, February 15th, 2014
I give major props to you!
"A tree falls the way it leans.....be careful which way you lean"
3xloser ( member #34735) posted at 1:46 AM on Saturday, February 15th, 2014
Good for you. I've met that guy in myself. F him too. 
LA44 ( member #38384) posted at 2:21 AM on Saturday, February 15th, 2014
Love. This.
Well done NGU.
Me: 44
He: 47 WH
Married: 15 years
D Day: December 2012
Affair: Fall 2009 - Dec. 2011
R is not linear
5674emt ( member #40012) posted at 3:21 AM on Saturday, February 15th, 2014
BS 53
WH 44
M 14 years at time of DD
2 young daughters
DD 12-8-12
OW=Xfriend
A-3 YEARS and her husband was an accomplice.
In R, IC, & MC Since 1 week after DD. On the mend with the help of God, Friends and Family.
tesla ( member #34697) posted at 3:31 AM on Saturday, February 15th, 2014
"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear
newnormal ( member #21925) posted at 3:53 AM on Saturday, February 15th, 2014
BS 43 (me)
FWH 48
D-day 9/07
Dont retreat, reload.
"Pull that knife out of your back - and sever the fuel line to that bus you got thrown under" Bufffalo
Sadmumma ( member #42192) posted at 6:45 AM on Saturday, February 15th, 2014
You made me cry.
But more power to you to see it and become a better person.
All WS should read that, daily.
On any given day you have the power to say "my story is not going to end like this"
Me 41 BS
Him 41 WH
6 kids...7 weeks, 5,7,9,11&13
D day jan 29th 2014
BrokenButTrying ( member #42111) posted at 7:14 AM on Saturday, February 15th, 2014
This is wonderful
Madhatters - We have R'd.
Chin up. Unwavering. Fight. We can do this.
sinsof thefather ( member #29295) posted at 8:10 AM on Saturday, February 15th, 2014
Great post!
...second star to the right and straight on till morning.
mindbody ( member #27941) posted at 1:07 PM on Saturday, February 15th, 2014
Sharing this with WSO. Love the message.
Aubrie ( member #33886) posted at 3:52 PM on Saturday, February 15th, 2014
Nice vent NGU. Good stuff.
"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - J. Wayne
Prayingforhope ( member #41801) posted at 12:14 AM on Sunday, February 16th, 2014
WH 41
BS 40
D-Day Oct 28th, 2013
Together 18 years
Three amazing boys 12, 9 & 6
Praying for hope daily
Stillheart ( new member #27322) posted at 2:10 PM on Sunday, February 16th, 2014
Great message and attitude for positive change.
Me:63 BH
Her:54 WW
Married: 27yrs
8 month affair
D-Day 11-10-08
Two Daughter: 18 & 22
In R and doing well
LifeIsTooWeird ( member #42093) posted at 5:37 PM on Monday, February 17th, 2014
F* that guy indeed! But praise be to the woman who helped you come to terms with that realization. The cats on the other hand may be harder to persuade, because they held her while she cried, they watched you, judged you, they watched her, they sympathized, and those animals sometimes have a harder time forgetting and forgiving like us betrayeds. Waywards underestimate the bonds that grow stronger between a betrayed and their helpless dependents when the wayward is not there. When you have the cats approval again you'll know you are indeed home. Best of luck on your continuing growth in life, love and feline psychology.
Me - GF (38)
Him - BF (33)
DDay - 08/13
Together 8 Years
In R
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