I consulted with quite a few lawyers before choosing my first one. Doing that has the added bonus of preventing them from representing your WH. And all of them were free or charged about $100 for the initial consult. That really does depend on the lawyer.. And their fees really are a negotiation. With my current lawyer, I negotiated and got him to take $50 off his hourly rate, to agree to give me back any retainer money I may have leftover, and to change his minute increments from 15 to 5. In case you didn't know, most lawyers will round the minutes they spend working on your case and charge you based on your hourly rate. Like if he makes a 5 minute phone call to you, at the 15 minute agreement, he would round it up to 15 minutes and charge you 1/4 of his hourly rate. And if he makes a 20 minute phone call, he would round it up to 30 minutes and charge you 1/2 his hourly wage. But at 5 minute increments, he won't be rounding up so much. This is definitely something you can ask the different lawyers about and see if they are willing to negotiate.
Unfortunately for me, the first lawyer I hired ended up being terrible for my situation. I initially like him because he was all about mediating and compromising, and I was willing to be like that in the divorce. What I didn't count on was my piece of shit STBX being completely unreasonable and trying to screw me at every turn. I needed a bulldog, and I had hired a puppy. Thankfully, on the recommendation of a friend, I now have a great lawyer who knows what he is dealing with and can fight for me instead of trying to get me to back down all the time. I think it was most important to me that my lawyer realize the kind of personality disordered, dickhead of a husband I have. You don't want someone overcharging you or getting you to fight unnecessarily, but you want someone who will fight for what you want.
As far as living together after the divorce, I don't think lawyers or the judge or anyone can tell you guys what to do, but I couldn't do it either. I would highly recommend one of you getting a roommate instead of continuing to live together. You need space and distance to heal and move on with your life.