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User Topic: Found last year's Valentine's card
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39166
Member # 39166
Default  Posted: 5:04 PM, February 14th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I was just sorting through a file of the kids' stuff and right in the middle of it was The Arse's Valentine's card to me, last year.

On the outside is a picture of a bird holding heart shaped balloon. On the inside it says:

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With all my love on Valentine's Day [the "all my love" part is underlined by him]
Now and always

The Arse xxx

He stopped paying into our holiday fund the next month...and was scowling at me when he thought I didn't notice...and was working out again...and encouraging me to spend money we didn't have. Mid April he'd detached. End of April he walked.

Ironic.


Me: BW
Him: STBXWH 'The Arse' - passive aggressive, tt'ing, gaslighting...multiple EA's with different women (1 'proven') and at least 1 PA

Took a while, but I like the me I am, without him.

"Until God opens the next do


Posts: 1107 | Registered: May 2013 | From: UK
nekorb
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Default  Posted: 7:54 PM, February 14th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ugh.

Yeah. I found my Vday card, Mother's Day, Christmas... No indication whatsoever.

Boggles the mind.

The very first time I found one of those things I had a compete and total panic attack. Had to call a friend to talk me down off the ceiling. I was laying on the floor of my bedroom hyperventilating. It was awful. Mascara stain is still on the carpet.

I feel for you.


Me: BS 44; Him: WH 47 aka CAT- colossal asshat; Married 22 years
D-day: July 17, 2013, with TT to follow
D filed July 16, 2014, 363 days later than I should have
Psalms 27:14
Wait for The Lord; be strong and take heart. Wait for the Lord.

Posts: 1838 | Registered: Aug 2013
SBB
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Member # 35229
Default  Posted: 8:04 PM, February 14th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

2 years ago the sad clown was in London conducting his affair with OWIndianSheMan and sent me the usual box of long stemmed roses for VD with a lovey dovey note. I felt so lonely and not just because he was in London - it felt so insincere.

I sent him a giant box of chocolate dipped strawberries which he shared with OWIndianSheMan. I don't know how these guys sleep at night.

I had kept all of his cards and notes with the intention of creating a collage of them on our 10th wedding anniversary (would have been July this year). I burned them all October 2012, 10 years from the day we met, a few months after S. It was cleansing and I'm so happy I'll never have to accidentally come across them ever again.

Such pretty words were concealing some pretty ugly actions.


I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

Posts: 5662 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Australia
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39166
Member # 39166
Default  Posted: 5:56 AM, February 15th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I've decided to keep mine...I need a reminder of just how much he lied, even after DDay and in false R. Of how much he could protest his love for me,even as he was preparing to leave. It's the old adage of don't listen to their words, look at their ongoing actions. Words and big gestures are cheap. I don't want to be fooled again.


Me: BW
Him: STBXWH 'The Arse' - passive aggressive, tt'ing, gaslighting...multiple EA's with different women (1 'proven') and at least 1 PA

Took a while, but I like the me I am, without him.

"Until God opens the next do


Posts: 1107 | Registered: May 2013 | From: UK
FaithFool
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Default  Posted: 11:38 AM, February 15th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I gave him back every.single.thing he ever wrote to me.

He was devastated. Poor muffin!


DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire

Posts: 17715 | Registered: Jul 2008 | From: Canada
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