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Gajit posted 2/14/2014 19:53 PM

Knowing that today is his birthday, I called him yesterday (as I do every Thursday) to let him know how much money I needed for this week for bills. He always tries to engage me in an argument. All I said was, "Just letting you know." Then I told him goodnight and hung up.
All is good then he calls me an hour ago to tell me he 'forgot' the amount and deposited XXX amount. I said Thank you, then he says, "have a good Valentine's Day." Crickets.......good night....hung up. He always tries to push buttons, but I am learning how to deal.

nekorb posted 2/14/2014 20:00 PM

Can you email instead of calling? Then he doesn't have the opportunity to catch you off guard and mess with you.

Gajit posted 2/14/2014 20:08 PM

He doesn't email. He is technologically incompetent.

Ashland13 posted 2/15/2014 09:37 AM

Good job on not responding.

It is so hard. At first. It gets easier, I promise.

I don't know if it would help any, but when it first happened to me, I had to physically part from any communication devices.

Then I used the hurt as a coping tool and then I moved on to a reward system for myself. Small things, not always things to buy.

Now, a few years later, it is a blissful day to not hear from there and an eye roll when I do.

Maybe there's a time he's never home or near his mobile phone and you can call then? Or set up something via paper that would be a set figure for him to send you every week so that the phone calls can end? And maybe if you could make it over what the top amount ever is, it could ensure you wouldn't have to ask again. just an idea. I have this too sometimes.

[This message edited by Ashland13 at 9:38 AM, February 15th (Saturday)]

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