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Gajit (original poster member #40665) posted at 1:53 AM on Saturday, February 15th, 2014
Knowing that today is his birthday, I called him yesterday (as I do every Thursday) to let him know how much money I needed for this week for bills. He always tries to engage me in an argument. All I said was, "Just letting you know." Then I told him goodnight and hung up.
All is good then he calls me an hour ago to tell me he 'forgot' the amount and deposited XXX amount. I said Thank you, then he says, "have a good Valentine's Day." Crickets.......good night....hung up. He always tries to push buttons, but I am learning how to deal.
Lord, with Your help I will focus on each small step of the climb, instead of the mountain that stands before me.
nekorb ( member #40306) posted at 2:00 AM on Saturday, February 15th, 2014
Can you email instead of calling? Then he doesn't have the opportunity to catch you off guard and mess with you.
Me: BS 44; Him: WH 47 M - 22 Years
D-day: 7/2013; D filed 7/2014; Divorced 7-27-16
...the WS affair starts off in a dreamland where everything is all Golly, Wow! and Meant To Be! and Soul Mates drop from the trees to frolic in the mist. -devotedman
Gajit (original poster member #40665) posted at 2:08 AM on Saturday, February 15th, 2014
He doesn't email. He is technologically incompetent.
Lord, with Your help I will focus on each small step of the climb, instead of the mountain that stands before me.
Ashland13 ( member #38378) posted at 3:37 PM on Saturday, February 15th, 2014
Good job on not responding.
It is so hard. At first. It gets easier, I promise.
I don't know if it would help any, but when it first happened to me, I had to physically part from any communication devices.
Then I used the hurt as a coping tool and then I moved on to a reward system for myself. Small things, not always things to buy.
Now, a few years later, it is a blissful day to not hear from there and an eye roll when I do.
Maybe there's a time he's never home or near his mobile phone and you can call then? Or set up something via paper that would be a set figure for him to send you every week so that the phone calls can end? And maybe if you could make it over what the top amount ever is, it could ensure you wouldn't have to ask again. just an idea. I have this too sometimes.
[This message edited by Ashland13 at 9:38 AM, February 15th (Saturday)]
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