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Are you really kidding me!!

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 hopefulfourus (original poster member #25204) posted at 2:48 AM on Saturday, February 15th, 2014

So this is a weekend both my kids are in their own sports tournament. I traveled with my daughter to hers, which is 6 hours away from home. POS stayed home to take our son to his, which is being held locally.

When I arrived at our hotel, I contacted my son. He is AT my SIL spending the night! I cannot believe this. POS could NOT stay home with him. I am so furious!!!

I really want to text a snide comment right now. UGHHHHHH. What to do????

Me: BW. 40's
Him: WH POS. 40's
2 kids. DD16, DS14

Don't let my user name fool you...I am NOT hopeful for us at ALL!!

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tesla ( member #34697) posted at 3:03 AM on Saturday, February 15th, 2014

Don't text him, not worth it.

Is the aunt good to him?

"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

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SBB ( member #35229) posted at 4:57 AM on Saturday, February 15th, 2014

^^THIS. As long as the aunt is good to him what the POS does doesn't matter.

Its hard but you have to separate your feelings as an XW from your feelings as a mum. Even if this hurts you as a mum you need to remember its not your job to make him a good dad.

If FRR comes into play that is a different issue but it sounds like you are 6 hours away so that is not an option.

Don't waste energy thinking about what he is doing or not doing. Stop yourself. Turn that focus on to you and your kids. It won't be wasted there, I promise you that.

I'm not saying its easy. It took me a few months and lots of willpower like breaking any bad habit. Now I now have a new, good habit. I don't give a flying fuck what he does or doesn't do.

I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

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 hopefulfourus (original poster member #25204) posted at 10:50 AM on Saturday, February 15th, 2014

I am grateful that his aunt is good to him. He told me that when he got there last night, she had already gone out and bought him some treats!

My son also told me that POS said he would take my son and his friend somewhere fun on Saturday, before his game. Let's see how that pans out.

As far as POS is concerned, what he does, where he goes, I really don't give a rats a** anymore. However, when it directly involves my kids, it just burns me. I guess or hope eventually that my kids will get what a crummy father they have.

Thank you for the advice of the "not texting". This may also work in my favor when it comes to custody.

Me: BW. 40's
Him: WH POS. 40's
2 kids. DD16, DS14

Don't let my user name fool you...I am NOT hopeful for us at ALL!!

posts: 102   ·   registered: Aug. 17th, 2009   ·   location: New York
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