[This message edited by EB1541 at 12:50 AM, February 15th (Saturday)]
What bothers me is the fact that he's out with friends! On Valentine's Day. At this hour. ... Very suspicious, and a definite red flag.
I read your profile. I hate to tell you this, but the last paragraph of your profile describes a man who is manipulating you to be quiet and tolerant of whatever he wants to do, including having an affair, if he so chooses.
You've been married less than a year! Your son is just a baby. You want this to work out. That's understandable. However, consider this: You have not invested years together, you are young, and most of all, your child is too young to know and understand what is going on. A baby would adjust to a new lifestyle easily in comparison to what an older child would go through. If you do build a new life for yourself and your child at any point in your life, wouldn't this be the best time to do so?
I'm sorry you're going through this.
Walk a Mile In My Shoes
Married 14 yrs. Now Separated & in NC
2 grown DD's - his from previous M
4 grown kids (2DS, 2DD) mine from previous M
That doesn't sound like a R man to me.
Are you going to continue to allow this behavior? I would let him know that his continued behavior is guiding you right out of the marriage.
And then I would work on just that. I am not saying "Divorce his ass tomorrow!!", but I am saying that this behavior is not a reconcilable behavior....and you only are left with (2) options--to accept it, or not.
All work and no play has just cost me my wife--Gary Puckett
D-Day: 9/18/09 D-Day#2: 2/19/10 The Marriage Killer: 6/6/11
Heading for D
imho you need to 180 him, start looking at what you will and will not accept. I had a friend tell me after I announced my D that her husband cheated on her (in her words, every couple of years) throughout her marriage. She accepted that, and continues to stay married to him.
I could not do that, it shows a complete lack of respect and true commitment to me.
Have you read the Healing Library? It's in the yellow box on the upper left of the screen. Please do so.
"You can't fix a broken man, but he can break you"