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♀ 41967
Member # 41967
Default  Posted: 12:03 PM, February 15th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have MC on Monday and would like to bring up the subject of talking to the kids about the truth. My WH had a LTA affair and I would like our 11 and 8 year olds to know that there is a reason that I am wanting to divorce their dad. I don't feel comfortable lying or saying that we no longer love each other. Is there an age-appropriate way to tell the kids without throwing him under the bus? What has worked with others?

Posts: 41 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: Midwest
♀ 41340
Member # 41340
Default  Posted: 12:17 PM, February 15th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My DD15 (who mentally is like an 8 yr old) her IC talked about the language of broken promises and secrets and a marriage is not a place for either. With that being said- DD15 is the youngest of 4. Others in their 20's and she has heard them reference dad's girlfriend.

Me- BS
Him - WS (the Grub)
married 28 years/4 kids(mostly grown)

"'Cause there's a side to you that I never knew, never knew.
All the things you'd say, they were never true, never true "
Set Fire to the Rain

Posts: 408 | Registered: Nov 2013
♀ 40115
Member # 40115
Default  Posted: 12:20 PM, February 15th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

"When people get married they make promises to each other. Daddy didn't keep his promise and it makes Mommy sad. Mommy doesn't want to be sad anymore, so she and Daddy will be living apart. This has nothing to do with anything the children have or have not done"

One day
I'm gonna forget your name,
And one sweet day,
you're gonna drown in my lost pain. - "Sweet Sacrifice" by Evanescence

Double Betrayal D-Day 7/26/2013
Divorced 11/18/2014

Posts: 3391 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: Illinois, USA
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