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User Topic: A season
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Stop  Posted: 10:44 PM, February 15th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage's A season. Anyone else? This is gonna be a real fun week, b/c my sister is flying in this week. Just like she did last February, when I told her all about my A's. She was supportive of my infidelity...yes we're two fucked-up apples from the same tree. (She apologized and BH forgave her, but we haven't seen her since last Feb.) Also BH's friend Joey is coming down next weekend, and they'll be out golfing all day. Guess what I did last year when Joey came down and BH was away for 12 hours a day? Yeah, I met up with AP.

I discussed "A season" with my therapist, and it's a legit psychological phenomenon. She said children who were abused in the spring, for example, can become agitated during that time of year. Motherfucking abusers of children, there is not a hell hot enough for you. Still have so much rage about that, and I don't know how to deal with it.

I'm a pragmatist, so I rarely start a thread without a specific agenda, or looking for advice. Guess I'm just wanting to vent a little, or looking for support and/or commiseration. And...if I bite anyone's head off in the next couple months? Sorry in advance. Call me on it, and I'll own up.

fWW: 42
BH: 52
DDay: April 21, 2013
Sweet DS & fierce DD, under 10
Former motto: "Fake it till ya make it." Now: "You can't win if you don't play."

Posts: 1523 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: The First Coast
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Default  Posted: 8:05 AM, February 16th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You can bite my head off. I kind of need it right now. I'm having post V-Day's blues. Not because of flowers or candy or anything like that. I am jealous of all the people who got laid or had the option of getting laid.

I would like to get laid. Here is the part you can bite my head off for...I am mourning the sex part of the A. To be clear, not the AP but the sex.

I hate being in a sexless marriage. I HATE IT. It was sexless before the A and now it's even more sexless because I have stopped initiating any kind of action. This was suggested in IC and my husband agreed to this. Me initiating sex makes both him and I feel bad.

I'm reading a book right now that deals with this subject and offers a different approach. It won't get me laid in the near future but it can give me a simmer of hope.

Sorry to t/j. Also just needed to vent.

Me: 36
BS: 37

Married 8 years.
1 Child
DDay: March 2012

Posts: 72 | Registered: Jan 2014
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Default  Posted: 9:35 AM, February 16th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I guess this is also considered my A season cuz the EA was still going on last year at this time, though the PA had ended.....I guess my season is October-August.

Its hard to look back and think what you were doing last year at this time.....last year at this time I was at my parents house with my DD...and even though I would be paying attention to her and playing with her it wasn't 100 percent, cuz I would constantly be checking my phone or computer from XAP. Thank goodness my DD has gotten her mother back, it just eats away at me that I wasn't there the whole time.

But what if I fall?
Oh Darling, but what if you fly?

Posts: 1269 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Massachusetts
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Default  Posted: 4:06 AM, February 17th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yep, its that most fuckered-up time of the year again. Smack in the middle of the EA part three years ago, PA part comes up in mid March. So far its been the most triggery time of year for Mrs LRH and this year seems to be no different. Doesn't help that I'm "between jobs" right now. So much to be tense about.

[This message edited by longroadhome at 4:07 AM, February 17th (Monday)]

Me: WH
Her: BW, and the most amazing, beautiful person I've ever known

It is counterintuitive really... the less we defend our well-being, the more well we feel. ~ Nancy Colier

Posts: 547 | Registered: Jun 2011
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Default  Posted: 8:36 AM, February 17th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hang in there 20. A tough time with several triggers it seems.

How is Mr. 20 handing this??

BH Tred
M 19yrs
DDay Nov. 2011

Guns don't kill people; Affairs kill people

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