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20WrongsVs1 posted 2/15/2014 22:44 PM

And...it's A season. Anyone else? This is gonna be a real fun week, b/c my sister is flying in this week. Just like she did last February, when I told her all about my A's. She was supportive of my infidelity...yes we're two fucked-up apples from the same tree. (She apologized and BH forgave her, but we haven't seen her since last Feb.) Also BH's friend Joey is coming down next weekend, and they'll be out golfing all day. Guess what I did last year when Joey came down and BH was away for 12 hours a day? Yeah, I met up with AP.

I discussed "A season" with my therapist, and it's a legit psychological phenomenon. She said children who were abused in the spring, for example, can become agitated during that time of year. Motherfucking abusers of children, there is not a hell hot enough for you. Still have so much rage about that, and I don't know how to deal with it.

I'm a pragmatist, so I rarely start a thread without a specific agenda, or looking for advice. Guess I'm just wanting to vent a little, or looking for support and/or commiseration. And...if I bite anyone's head off in the next couple months? Sorry in advance. Call me on it, and I'll own up.

smez posted 2/16/2014 08:05 AM

You can bite my head off. I kind of need it right now. I'm having post V-Day's blues. Not because of flowers or candy or anything like that. I am jealous of all the people who got laid or had the option of getting laid.

I would like to get laid. Here is the part you can bite my head off for...I am mourning the sex part of the A. To be clear, not the AP but the sex.

I hate being in a sexless marriage. I HATE IT. It was sexless before the A and now it's even more sexless because I have stopped initiating any kind of action. This was suggested in IC and my husband agreed to this. Me initiating sex makes both him and I feel bad.

I'm reading a book right now that deals with this subject and offers a different approach. It won't get me laid in the near future but it can give me a simmer of hope.

Sorry to t/j. Also just needed to vent.

Alyssamd24 posted 2/16/2014 09:35 AM

Twenty,
I guess this is also considered my A season cuz the EA was still going on last year at this time, though the PA had ended.....I guess my season is October-August.

Its hard to look back and think what you were doing last year at this time.....last year at this time I was at my parents house with my DD...and even though I would be paying attention to her and playing with her it wasn't 100 percent, cuz I would constantly be checking my phone or computer from XAP. Thank goodness my DD has gotten her mother back, it just eats away at me that I wasn't there the whole time.

longroadhome posted 2/17/2014 04:06 AM

Yep, its that most fuckered-up time of the year again. Smack in the middle of the EA part three years ago, PA part comes up in mid March. So far its been the most triggery time of year for Mrs LRH and this year seems to be no different. Doesn't help that I'm "between jobs" right now. So much to be tense about.

[This message edited by longroadhome at 4:07 AM, February 17th (Monday)]

SandAway posted 2/17/2014 08:36 AM

Hang in there 20. A tough time with several triggers it seems.

How is Mr. 20 handing this??