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mainlyinpain posted 2/16/2014 14:40 PM

So, put in all the numbers I know attached to OW and her cell phone number comes back at Spokeo and Intelius as being in his name, this is a number of hers that I have known for years. Shocking to see.
Ask him and he says he has no idea why his name would come up attached, never got her a cell.
I tried accessing the number through the provider and it is listed under her zip code and ss not his for the bill.
But what reason would his name come up as being the owner of this cell? I don't want to accept IDK
But can't think of scenarios.
Head hurts.

sunnyrain posted 2/16/2014 14:46 PM

Did your H ever use/list AP's cell number to verify a facebook or email account in HIS name?

Ostrich80 posted 2/16/2014 14:56 PM

Sounds to me like he bought the phone for her to use. Why else would his name come up. I've used spokeo and our entire family, all 6 members have our own phone number but spokeo shows my ws name on all of the numbers, not the name of the person who uses it, because the plan is under his name. Your ws purchased the phone.

[This message edited by Ostrich80 at 2:58 PM, February 16th (Sunday)]

purplejacket4 posted 2/16/2014 14:59 PM

I don't believe battling deception with deception is a good course. I'd try another method.

mainlyinpain posted 2/16/2014 15:03 PM

Sunny--I don't see that ever happening. He is not a FB or email user much.

Ostrich--this is what I fear but just can't understand. For the time in 2011 when he was with OW he bought himsedlf a prepaid phone and all he tells me doesn't jive with him buying her a cell for any reason. Not a regular cell phone account.

Purplejacket--I have no idea what you are talking about.

Whalers11 posted 2/16/2014 15:40 PM

He either a) has/had that phone # in his name or b) has/had used the billing address for that phone # as his address for some other bill/mail.

Ostrich80 posted 2/16/2014 15:45 PM

Have you verified that this is a phone under a plan or prepaid? I know with att, when I broke my phone, I just bought a prepaid and put my sim card in it until I had an upgrade. The prepaids can be used with a plan if there is # to go with it..like you don't have to use the prepaid #, u can use your own sim. He could have bought her one also at the time he bought himself one so each would know it was only for their own.use. I can't think of any other reason why his name would be on it. Have you tried googling the number or try pipl to see if it shows the same match.

Ostrich80 posted 2/16/2014 15:48 PM

Just thought of something else. If she had another phone with Verizon for instance but he had att, when I had my prepaid, I could text for free any other att phone so it wouldbt use my limited texts. Just sounds like they had their own phones for each other only.

prowoman posted 2/16/2014 15:54 PM

Read your profile and thought maybe it's her drug phone and she set it up in his name? Just throwing that out there.

mainlyinpain posted 2/16/2014 16:04 PM

I don't know what to think.

He did use to own the house she now owns so that address was attached to him but that was nine years ago.

the online access seems to show the bill going to her and being under her ss#

Could it really be that it is just because he was associated with her address? why would her name not come up as owner.

Does not make sense. I see a confrontation about this messing up my life.

Ostrich80 posted 2/16/2014 18:37 PM

Could be, spokeo is not very accurate in my opinion. A lot of their info is old. Seems more like it would be hooked to the address for a landline though, not a cell. That's why I suggested trying a different site instead of spokeo.
I used it for a # that kept popping up in my ws usage. Spokeo attached to a no tell motel in a nearby city with a women's name. Later I found out and confirmed without a doubt, it was one of my DD's coaches. She had the sane # in her contacts. I have sense become friends with the coaches wife and this specific # is his.

Kitty70 posted 2/16/2014 21:30 PM

I discovered this exact same thing except I used stumpthemonkey.com. You have to pay I think but it's very cheap. They claim to be more accurate. Worth a try if you don't mind throwing out a few bucks. That way you can confirm.

I confronted with that info and he confirmed her phone (one of his women) was on his account.

NoMorDeceit posted 2/16/2014 22:29 PM

It is very likely tied to the address. They use credit reports and public records and most of that stuff is really outdated and unreliable. It is most likely because he owned the home or lived in the home. Are you sure he sold her the home?

mainlyinpain posted 2/16/2014 23:37 PM

Ostrich, I think you are saying that for you spokeo showed the wrong info for the number and it was just a coach's number with no AP connection?
I do think that spokeo is outdated but got the same result at Intelius.
I put in an old cell number of OW and it also comes up in his name and also with the same slight misspelling so maybe it is just the address tied to him and he did not buy them or sign up for them?
Could she have gotten them and used his name?
Maybe as you say Prowoman because she used this phone to sell drugs?
NoMor, am I sure he sold her the home? That is a whole other can of worms. A can of lies and deceit.
A la mode with a cherry on top.

Ostrich80 posted 2/17/2014 19:39 PM

When I bought my prepaid, they just typed my name in without looking at my id so tea she could have used a diff name other than her own. Yes spokeo is outdated IMO
It also gave an email for my ws that was actually my sons years ago.

[This message edited by Ostrich80 at 7:40 PM, February 17th (Monday)]