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poison1916 posted 2/16/2014 22:16 PM

i have uncovered since d-day many letters, emails, and text messages. they are written in her hand, her inner-voice, but they are not things she would ever say (or things i thought she would ever do).

when we meet for short periods of time sometimes i see a different person in her eyes. sometimes i see the real her but if she gets angry or whatever shes feeling she vanishes.

does anyone else have similar experiences?

tushnurse posted 2/17/2014 09:28 AM

Absolutely.
Not so much after Dday, but the entire time he was engaging in the A. Every once in a while I would get a glimpse of him, and do all I could to get him to stay, but nothing worked.

Not until we had Dday. It truly was like invasion of the body snatchers thing.

(((and strength)))

poison1916 posted 2/17/2014 09:39 AM

i never saw it before dday. just after. it's like a switch flipped in her.

we've come to a settlement and hopefully this will be all over soon (~4 weeks).

Merlin posted 2/17/2014 10:42 AM

She has been like this for a while now and you missed the cues and clues.

How long?

Maybe ever since you met her and she could no longer keep it in.

Maybe she morphed into someone new recently.

Does it really matter which it is? You are at the intersection of Here and Now. How you got there you may never understand.

Gman1 posted 2/17/2014 10:58 AM

At times my FWW was like an alien. It was like she was someone I had never met. She was in her withdrawal time or fog. It was very frustrating for me. Later, she explained the A was like a drug addiction and she was an addict. Coming off the drug was not an easy thing apparently. Fortunately, her withdrawal only lasted about 4-6 weeks and the real person returned.

poison1916 posted 2/17/2014 19:50 PM

It is very interesting hearing how dinner people had and are having similar experiences. I think the one of the hardest parts of this piece is, is it permanent or temporary or was it then all along.


Temporary would be a great relief, then I could at least have my best friend back.

Permanent makes me very heartbroken that a great person was lost.

All along makes think that either she needs to move to Hollywood or I'm a fool

poison1916 posted 2/17/2014 20:13 PM

Funny enough I am doing something similar. Her name x but since we met she spelled it differently. I am now spelling it x again.

The OM I am referring to by his childhood nickname of x not his work name or his actual name.

[This message edited by poison1916 at 8:14 PM, February 17th (Monday)]

scarednbroken posted 2/17/2014 20:42 PM

I think the one of the hardest parts of this piece is, is it permanent or temporary or was it then all along.

Temporary would be a great relief, then I could at least have my best friend back.

Permanent makes me very heartbroken that a great person was lost.

All along makes think that either she needs to move to Hollywood or I'm a fool


I would say that person was there all along but maybe repressed or hidden. Unfortunately not everyone is always their genuine self. BUT do not beat yourself up. You are genuine and part of that mean you expect others to be genuine. She is the fool for messing up what could have been the best and most genuine relationship change she had.

SI Staff posted 2/18/2014 06:28 AM

Please post on the other thread in this forum with the same topic.

Thank you.

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