At what age did you let your children play outside by themselves? What limits did they have?
My DD will be five in April and often times wants to play outside, but I don't always want to go out when she does, especially in 30 degree weather. There have been a few times I have let her play on the back deck by herself while I am in the kitchen (watching her out the window).
Right now she is playing outside with my seven year old niece, they are in the backyard only, and I am sitting inside watching them out the window.
I feel more comfortable letting her outside with my niece rather than all by herself.
I should also add that we live in a neighborhood with a lot of families and houses; but during the summer there are also a lot of teenagers wandering around.
Just want to know what other parents do. Thanks in advance!
Ds is now 7, and beginning last summer we'd let him ride around the block on his bike. We kind of slowly build up from there.
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We moved to our current house in Feb 2011, but he went to school in a different county and didn't make any friends in the neighborhood to actually play with... so still not much of an issue.
In 6th grade, he was 11, he started attending the middle school that all the kids in the neighborhood attend and started to make friends... I let him play in the front or back yard with his friends... He started walking himself to the bus stop which was several blocks away.
Now he has a phone and can go anywhere in the neighborhood as long as he texts me every 30 mins or so and then comes home at the appointed time.
I know that's probably more info than you wanted... but that's how we handled it.
I'd personally have felt safe letting him the backyard of our current house alone at 5, had we lived here, because we have a 6ft high concrete wall in the back and privacy fencing on the sides... so he couldn't get out.
I am not sure how I'd feel if I didn't have that stuff.
If the dogs barked, i would look out.
The worst that ever happened is that they all got a hose bath LOL.
We moved to a new development a few years later, around the time that DD was 7. With all the construction, heavy machinery, and workers in and out all the time, the neighborhood was much busier and far less controlled. The kids in the neighborhood were either teens or babies, so there weren't others her age around, and the parents were different, too - less neighborly, more to themselves. We also didn't have a fenced yard. DD didn't play outside much at all. She was very anxious being outside with all the commotion, so we had to push to get her outside, and we had to be out there with her or she would come back in.
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You have to know your own child. I knew DS could handle himself. He flew home from NY by himself at the age of 7.
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No being out front without us, we live on a road busy with both cars and pedestrian traffic.
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I would never let her in the front without me but as long as she is in the backyard I think she should be fine....I watch her the whole time, and she is a good girl so I know she won't leave the yard without me.
I know it's all about personal preference but wanted to hear from others!!