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User Topic: He's such a bonehead sometimes....
♀ 38499
Member # 38499
Default  Posted: 3:52 PM, February 17th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(BS & WS replies are welcome)

So my WH and I were discussing what (if anything) we would be doing for Valentine's Day - yes we still celebrate, usually something small like lunch and a movie for instance.

He suggested seeing the new Colin Farrell romance movie that came out recently - when he suggested it I rolled my eyes and made a gagging motion like I was throwing up over the ridiculousness of romance movies...

And he says, "You used to love romantic movies, what happened to you? When did you get so cynical?"

I nearly lost my mind! Is he serious??? My kids were in the room so I didn't say anything - I just gave him "the look" - you know the one that says "YOU DID THIS DIP-SHIT! YOU MADE ME THIS WAY WHEN YOU DECIDED TO BANG YOUR EX-GIRLFRIEND - ARE YOU F**KING KIDDING ME???"

They just really don't get it sometimes do they?

BW - Me (33)
FWH - Him (34)
Married - 8years
D-Day - 06/06/12
Status - Trying...things are good :)

Posts: 77 | Registered: Feb 2013
♀ 42198
Member # 42198
Default  Posted: 4:07 PM, February 17th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

No, no they don't...

ME: 35
WBF: 44
Together 11 years
DDay: 1/12/14
DDay2: 3/28/14

Posts: 65 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: Ohio
♀ 21101
Member # 21101
Default  Posted: 4:17 PM, February 17th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I agree with Hannah.

Yup a bonehead.

Him: FWS
Kids: 18 & 20
Married for 22 years now, was 16 at the time. .
D-Day Sept 26 2008
R'd in about 2 years. Old Vet now.

Posts: 13434 | Registered: Oct 2008 | From: St. Louis
♀ 29912
Member # 29912
Default  Posted: 5:06 PM, February 17th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My H occasionally looks at me after I make a comment and says, "A little jaded are we?"
Yeah... jaded is the way a lot of us are now.

Posts: 1308 | Registered: Oct 2010 | From: still lost
♀ 42356
Member # 42356
Default  Posted: 5:43 PM, February 17th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Its the "bitter woman" syndrome that a lot of people refer to it as. Of course things like that make us want to vomit now, but I feel eventually that bitterness wears off and we start to gain our faith back...... Although I've always had a barf reflex for movies, books, etc like that even before DDay...... I hate the psychological aspect of it all, it makes people think that there is the possibility of all rainbows and fireworks all the time... and thats simply not real life even without infidelity.

"A tree falls the way it careful which way you lean"

Posts: 172 | Registered: Feb 2014
♀ 41192
Member # 41192
Default  Posted: 7:09 PM, February 17th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yep, my H also says things and when I roll my eyes or say thanks but no thanks, he seems to forget why I'd feel that way. Dummies

Me: 36 BS 2 boys (5 & 8)
Him: 36 EXWH, SA/NPD, Craigslist, porn, cam sites. EA/PA with disgusting co-worker troll
Too many DDays 9/13-1/15, too many chances to be a good man
Together 16 yrs, married 7yrs,
Divorced 2/11/15
I deserve to be the ONLY one

Posts: 1839 | Registered: Nov 2013
♀ 39682
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Default  Posted: 7:52 PM, February 17th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


I used to be able to take all my WH's "jokes" like a champ. Now I find myself bristling a lot more often and he says I need to get my sense of humor back. Guess I just can't take a joke anymore because the joke was on me for way too long.

Sorry, feeling pissy tonight :(

Me-BS Him-WH DS 5/12
Met 2000, Married 2004
DDay 5/26/13, TT through 8/13
2.5 yr EA w/co-worker, PA 12/12 to 4/13
Hopeful for R

Posts: 876 | Registered: Jun 2013 | From: MA
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