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 twitching (original poster member #42399) posted at 12:22 AM on Tuesday, February 18th, 2014

OW puts things on social media such as:

"Even if we aren't together anymore, I will always be with you."

and

"I know the one whom my soul loves."

and

"Don't judge my choices until you understand my reasons."

God. I hate her guts. WH doesn't know about these, b/c he's NC with her. But I check out of a morbid fascination...and to make sure of what she's up to, since she's a crafty harlot and all.

"My heart was broken and my head was just barely inhabitable. " - Anne Lamont

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CantLoseHope ( member #42356) posted at 12:49 AM on Tuesday, February 18th, 2014

Not only that <twitching> but social media truly shows the maturity level of people.......

One of the MANY reasons why I don't have a social media account......

As for the crap that this OW is posting, does your WH know about it? And if so has he said anything about it?

That makes my blood boil what shes saying....



"A tree falls the way it leans.....be careful which way you lean"

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CantLoseHope ( member #42356) posted at 12:52 AM on Tuesday, February 18th, 2014

also my response to this

"Don't judge my choices until you understand my reasons."

is there are NEVER any good reason to be part of an affair with someone who is married...... DONT CARE what your reasons are you stupid w%@re!

Sorry I got a little emotional on that one because I truly feel that there is never any reason why anyone should be with someone who is married..... there just isnt.



"A tree falls the way it leans.....be careful which way you lean"

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SadInNC ( member #42170) posted at 1:18 AM on Tuesday, February 18th, 2014

Facebook was the venue my WH used to hook up with old girlfriend, so this hits me close to home. The best way to get back at her?

BLOCK HER FROM YOU ACCOUNT AND FROM YOUR H ACCOUNT! She is hoping that you and your H can see what she is posting. If you block her, she can't see your stuff and you can't see her's either. That is the best revenge. IMO

BS/Me WH/Him

"Your value doesn't decrease based on someone's inability to see your worth." -Unknown Wise Person

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nekorb ( member #40306) posted at 1:57 AM on Tuesday, February 18th, 2014

WH/OW use FB as a war zone. I stay away. Was never a big fan anyway.

Me: BS 44; Him: WH 47 M - 22 Years
D-day: 7/2013; D filed 7/2014; Divorced 7-27-16
...the WS affair starts off in a dreamland where everything is all Golly, Wow! and Meant To Be! and Soul Mates drop from the trees to frolic in the mist. -devotedman

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TrustedHer ( member #23328) posted at 2:04 AM on Tuesday, February 18th, 2014

NC = No New Hurts.

Reading her stuff is you violating NC and hurting yourself.

Think of her social media stuff as her throwing darts at you. All of them are missing.

But you keep stepping in front of them, so they hit.

Quit stepping in front.

Take care of yourself. There's a great future out there. It won't come to you; you have to go to it.

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Spelljean ( member #35624) posted at 2:18 AM on Tuesday, February 18th, 2014

Yes, stay far away from social media during this time of your life. OW also loved to post things since she figured I would be reading. And I ovliged for a long time. No more.

She posted about 2013 and how her life had its ups and downs in love and how she came out ahead...and used inspirational quotes to let the world know she was on top of the world still...

Then again she posted about the virtues of "forgiveness" and again posted quotes about not expecting perfection from people...releasing anger and forgiving...most likely attempting to find a place of dignity for herself for when she decides to hook up with WH again. Afterall its humiliating to be a supposedly independent and strong woman....something she professes to be....and degrade oneself by going back for more from the ass that did nothing but string you along...

So...she posted all this dor the world to see! Or me. She knows I think WH is an ass. And my discard now. So...her new form of enlightenment became "forgiveness"

In truth, to take a jerk like him back, is the ultimate in self loathing and low self esteem. She knows it.

And she can have him.

WH: 41
me: BS, 45
Together 18 1/2 years, married 17
DDAY 8/2/12
OW: EA- friend of 4 months
Status: separated

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justme29 ( new member #41284) posted at 3:06 AM on Tuesday, February 18th, 2014

FSB has an album named Mine on her face book page. It has pictures of MY HUSBAND. A couple taken in a hotel room, or a couple of hotel rooms. She is obviously very proud to be the other woman. Other pictures of them together and her in his truck. She even updated her profile to a picture taken of her in his car.

Justme
BS - 53
WH -52
Married 30 years.
2 daughters, 1 granddaughter.
D-Day 11-14-11

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 twitching (original poster member #42399) posted at 4:00 AM on Tuesday, February 18th, 2014

I love all of you guys, just for understanding. Thanks.

"My heart was broken and my head was just barely inhabitable. " - Anne Lamont

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CantLoseHope ( member #42356) posted at 4:11 AM on Tuesday, February 18th, 2014

We love you too, and were always here



"A tree falls the way it leans.....be careful which way you lean"

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Shonsal ( new member #42427) posted at 4:22 AM on Tuesday, February 18th, 2014

Social media is difficult to deal with. It's how I first became suspicious and then later found out about my WH A. I'm obsessed with checking OW fb too I know it's detrimental but it's a hard addiction to let go of. Removing her is the best thing to do and as hard as it is let it go.

A: July 2012
WS: Him
OW: his best friend

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outside4me ( member #42430) posted at 4:32 AM on Tuesday, February 18th, 2014

My WW had her EA start through Facebook. Although not physically present, the AP was in our bedroom with me 10' away. Social media has sure made A so much easier to start and maintain. In regards to the AP in your betrayal...

But that's just like...my opinion, man. I could be wrong.

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justme29 ( new member #41284) posted at 4:49 AM on Tuesday, February 18th, 2014

Anyone have 2 face book pages? Why? Ok, maybe business and personal.

Then why would someone block 1 face book page but not both. I think she wanted to check my page out and the block goes both ways. So I blocked her.

Justme
BS - 53
WH -52
Married 30 years.
2 daughters, 1 granddaughter.
D-Day 11-14-11

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Dreamland ( member #40488) posted at 5:08 AM on Tuesday, February 18th, 2014

Yes I have two FB account so I can keep tabs on her.. She too post all this bullshit of how happy she is and how she's painting.. Ugh.. She can paint shit from shiola...

I still don't trust anyone so I would rather know if she doesn't post on FB like when she was dating my Husband.

I hate these whores!!

Someone should beat the shit out of them .☺️

Me-BS 50 Him-WH 47, DD17
Together since 1993, Married 19 yrs
DDay 3/12,4/12,7/12 EA-PA OW - 25 single husband chasing bastard whore

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Spelljean ( member #35624) posted at 6:02 AM on Tuesday, February 18th, 2014

IMO, if the OP hasn't blocked the BS on FB, then it is a HUGE sign they are broken individuals that are enjoying the competition...because they know BS will keep tabs on social media sites and their WS's.

Its not really healthy for BS that aren't in R, to continue to check up either, but our motivations are usually different. We are looking for answers. Attempting to understand. Looking for that bit of reality to hit us so we can maybe move on one day. Wondering why that person...etc.

OW never blocked me. She wanted me to read her page.

Shows a huge part of it was a sick competition for her.

WH: 41
me: BS, 45
Together 18 1/2 years, married 17
DDAY 8/2/12
OW: EA- friend of 4 months
Status: separated

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Rainbows ( member #39362) posted at 7:09 AM on Tuesday, February 18th, 2014

Spelljean is right, if a BS isn't blocked then posts are most likely intentional for the BS to see.

For the first couple of months after dday, I checked OW & WH's FB. I saw pictures of their romantic weekends away (while he and I were still in-house S) and even pictures of her sprawled all over my car.

It was so triggering and self-destructive. It kept me stuck in anger and bitterness, and I really had no one to blame but myself.

I finally closed my FB account on the day OW posted pictures of herself wearing some of my clothes (she stole several boxes of my clothing).

The temptation to look went away after about a week or so.

Trustedher is right:

NC = No New Hurts

There is always a rainbow after every storm.

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Bobbi_sue ( member #10347) posted at 1:17 PM on Tuesday, February 18th, 2014

NC = No New Hurts.

Reading her stuff is you violating NC and hurting yourself.

This is something I often hear that I don't agree with. If OW was on FB you can bet I'd be checking it to see what stupid sh!# she might post there, including the possibility of undying love for someone she can't have. I would take some pleasure in her misery (and stupidity for posting it) just like I took a bit of pleasure in listening to the voicemails she left for my H after she'd been dumped, blubbering and bawling, professing her love for him.

I believe in keeping friends close, and enemies closer, and for this reason I would never block the whore from FB (but in my case the whore is not on FB and I doubt she ever will be). I would not "friend" her on there either but if she was on there, I would surely find a way to view what she posts on her page, even now, more than 7 years later. I don't agree that it would "hurt" me. But that is just me; we are all different.

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overandone ( member #39162) posted at 1:40 PM on Tuesday, February 18th, 2014

I just wrote '2 - faced bitch' on her FB account the day after d-day. That account disappeared the same day, never to reappear.

Me - BW (54)
Him - fWS (61)
kiddies - daughters 22 and 27,son 22,
d-day - April 18 2012
15 years on/off LTA
R - but lots of bumps in the long road

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itainteasy ( member #31094) posted at 2:50 PM on Tuesday, February 18th, 2014

I wouldn't be able to stop at just reading what she wrote.

I would have to add my two cents in. And if that meant opening another "anonymous" page, I'd do that. I wouldn't be able to resist calling a whore a whore.

So, I don't look to see if the wannabe is on FB. I'm sure she is. She's 24.

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Twitchy ( member #25393) posted at 3:51 PM on Tuesday, February 18th, 2014

I never even had a FB account until I needed one to see what theh hell was going on. Now I rarely use it.

BTW: Nice Username!

BH(me)-57, FWW-Past,D-Day #1 - Oct 2007 - On-Line EA leading to a failed rendez-vous. D-Day #2 - Nov 2008 - In person EA caught early.

Away you will go, sailing in a race among the ruins.If you plan to face tomorrow, do it soon. Gordon Li

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