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StillPositive posted 2/17/2014 19:55 PM

I stuck to my 180! And i told my WS I was done and she needed to either be all in or i'm out!
And of course she didn't truly understand I was over the affair and time for a real change. So I told her a lil over a week ago time for her to choose.. And of course she said idk. At first then she said well, she doesn't want to hurt me anymore, so it's best that I be single. She even said I could take the kids.... Well, when she came home from work this weekend, she had no idea that I had the divorce papers written out and ready for her to sign... So we talked one last time. I explained my stance one last time. And she got her feelings hurt once again. And she got mad, ONCE AGAIN! So she blurted out: fine, then we're done. I quietly got up. Got the divorce papers out and signed them right in front of her and told her sign next to the other blank line. And walked off.
YES !!!!!! I followed through with the advice and support I got from SI... Thank you all for your support.
She truly was in shock!!!!! Cause I left and took a walk.... And my phone started to explode from all the texting. Lol!!! she's ready to work it out... One day at a time.
Most of my stuff is already packed. So we'll see no her follow through is over the next month or so.
I'm Happy, but not stupid and blind. Proud of myself. Let's see how things go from here.... Hopefully she's pulling her head out of her ass now...

CantLoseHope posted 2/17/2014 20:00 PM

Wow, I am so happy for you and I hope she does what she is saying shes going to do. THIS IS HUGE AND YOU HAVE EVERY RIGHT TO BE HAPPY..... Allow yourself those happy moments even if they are small. This one is not small, its huge! But I am just saying even the small victories are something to be happy about..... CONGRATULATIONS STILLPOSITIVE

Gives me hope hearing these things........

norabird posted 2/17/2014 20:03 PM

Way to be strong!!!!

lilacs40 posted 2/17/2014 20:06 PM

Good for you!!

Breezy150 posted 2/17/2014 20:42 PM

Way to go!

Jduff posted 2/18/2014 08:03 AM

Buddy, I would buy you a beer if we were in the same town! That was well executed!

4everfaithful83 posted 2/18/2014 10:32 AM

WOW! You must feel great...and you should!! Great job! It takes real strength and mind power to actually realize you are worth more than how you are being treated....and actually do something about it!!

A victory for you, no matter what your WW decides to do! We are all proud of you!

Aceofbase posted 2/18/2014 10:49 AM

way to go! Stay strong.

StillPositive posted 2/18/2014 14:30 PM

Yes I am very proud of myself! And it shows already...
We woke up yesterday morning and actually had a peaceful morning... I told her, we have something to do before she leaves. In a very positive happy manner... When she was finished getting ready for work, I told her it's time for her to send the no contact letter... I showed her some examples. Told her it needed to be done now! (and my tone of voice changed and she got defensive)... She said she would do it later... I said okay. But no other communication with him today. And since he's been out of state for a few months. She had to send a group text message. And she kept her word !!!!!!!
She sent the No Contact Text !!!!!!! Wow! Another lil victory for us...
So I'm taking it one day and one prayer at a time...

CantLoseHope posted 2/18/2014 14:57 PM

Good for you guyS!!!!!!!

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