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It's her birthday. Do I say anything?
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MadeOfScars posted 2/17/2014 20:08 PM
Pretty sure I know the answer, but nonetheless, I ask you guys. I've been debating whether or not I send her a simple "happy birthday" text. No more, no less. I know NC is best, but still.
We are definitely headed for D. Anyway, I am still tempted. What say you?
scarednbroken posted 2/17/2014 20:10 PM
No.
She doesn't deserve your well wishes. She wouldn't for you. NC NC. It would open the door to more hurt.
Howie posted 2/17/2014 20:11 PM
Kindness is good,so is justice.It is not good that a betrayal can make one small minded.But..15 year later and after good R,I still don't recognize her birthday.It is my small signal -don't stab me,it mattered.
MadeOfScars posted 2/17/2014 20:13 PM
Thanks scarednbroken. SI is a great sounding board for these crazy thoughts. My STBXW was always big on birthdays. That is why I was debating saying anything or remaining silent. Both speak volumes, but I don't want to give the wrong message.
[This message edited by SoulHurts at 8:15 PM, February 17th (Monday)]
MadeOfScars posted 2/17/2014 20:14 PM
Great point Howie.
BryanP37 posted 2/17/2014 20:20 PM
No way! Don't say a thing! I agree she doesn't deserve any recognition for anything. Absolutely right that it opens you up to more hurt. Ignore her, go dark. If she gets upset you didn't acknowledge her birthday, oh well! Tough shit! NC will be the best route for you until you are shed of her.
MadeOfScars posted 2/17/2014 20:24 PM
Thanks for confirming and talking me off the ledge. I had a great time tonight with some co-workers tonight for her birthday! Beyond that, I'm staying quiet.
MadeOfScars posted 2/17/2014 20:26 PM
Let me make something clear from my last post. My outing wasn't about her birthday in any way, just it so happened I had a fun night on what happens to be her birthday.
scarednbroken posted 2/17/2014 20:28 PM
Good for you SH!!! 
Brandon808 posted 2/17/2014 21:58 PM
Happy Birthday equals "I am still on the hook"
[This message edited by Brandon808 at 9:59 PM, February 17th (Monday)]
MadeOfScars posted 2/17/2014 22:01 PM
I agree, just needed to hear it.
norabird posted 2/17/2014 22:44 PM
Totally great of you to resist saying HB and to go out with friends--yay!!!
Hope2B posted 2/17/2014 23:16 PM
NC means NC...not NC except for a birthday. Stay strong.