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User Topic: I think he's finally getting it!!
♀ 41901
Member # 41901
Default  Posted: 8:57 PM, February 17th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

WH is reading how to help you spouse heal from an affair and I think it's sinking in!!! Up until today I've gotten defensiveness, anger, and frustration. Today was a roller coaster for me to say the least...I Told him I hated him & this marriage will not survive because he is a POS!! I woke up angry made him leave the house then he gets back and I'm a crying wreck!! Then I'm angry again take off for 3 hours come back still raging and crying saying horrible things to him the entire time. He kept his cool listened apologized over snd over, and wrote me a 3 page letter ab how sorry he was and he hates himself for hurting me and he can't live without me. We had an open conversation ab affair and he answered all of my questions. Today had been so bad for me but I'm happy to say WH is getting it finally!

Me-33 WS-34
Pregnant & 2 year old sweet baby girl
Together 15 years Married 5 years
D-day #1 - 12/25/13 TT D-day #2 - 1/3/13 admitted to 3 year affair with co worker

Posts: 119 | Registered: Jan 2014
♀ 39682
Member # 39682
Default  Posted: 8:59 PM, February 17th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sorry you had such a shit day but woohoo for him starting to get it!!

Me-BS Him-WH DS 5/12
Met 2000, Married 2004
DDay 5/26/13, TT through 8/13
2.5 yr EA w/co-worker, PA 12/12 to 4/13
Hopeful for R

Posts: 876 | Registered: Jun 2013 | From: MA
♀ 37418
Member # 37418
Default  Posted: 11:18 PM, February 17th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

[This message edited by sad81712 at 12:06 AM, February 18th (Tuesday)]

"Pain is mandatory for all of us. It's what teaches us. Suffering is what's optional. That's what happens when we try to skip over the pain."-Glennon Doyle Melton
BW(me)-49 WH-48
Married 23yrs
D-day 8-2012

Posts: 115 | Registered: Nov 2012
♂ 41686
Member # 41686
Default  Posted: 6:32 AM, February 18th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That is great news sparkle!!!

BH(me) | fWW
2 Kids - Married 2002
D-Day TT & EA | D-Day #2 PA

Posts: 437 | Registered: Dec 2013
♀ 42185
Member # 42185
Default  Posted: 9:46 AM, February 18th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That book had a very similar effect on my H a few weeks ago. It's nice to see those little signs of encouragement. He just needs to keep them up for the rest of your life, right?! Ha! But seriously, glad to hear that he is on the path to helping you heal.

BW, D-Day: 11/29/13 (4 month EA discovered); 12/19/13 (discovered was also PA); TT thru 2/14
Married: 2001; Together for 20 years
2 beautiful young kids

Posts: 894 | Registered: Jan 2014
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