My DDay was 17 Jan. I found out my husband had been cheating on me on his recent deployment and continued under my nose when he got home. You know the story. “Just friends” that would text all night long while he was sitting next to me on the couch. Going to take her and her boy to the airport but not asking me to go with. Waited for me to be out of town so he could go over to her house.
He finally told me and tried to be as open about everything as he could. He said I could have access to all his emails, his texts and his Facebook. He just leaves himself logged in all the time….why I didn’t think to look before he told me, I don’t know. I would have found several emails between them overseas that he forgot to delete that were disgusting (and on my birthday) and one that said how easily he could ditch me. He said when he got home and saw me everything changed and he fell back in love with me and wanted to work on things, but he couldn’t break it off until he told me because he “needed my help”. We’ve been trying to work on things, but I’ve been having huge issues dealing, so much so that he went by himself to see his family and I stayed home because I will spontaneously burst into tears and i didn’t know what we would tell his family.
Well, since I still don’t trust him and wanted to see if there was anything else going on, I went into his email account tonight and looked back at emails where he told his best friend what he had done and then said “we already know what a piece of s#!@ I am for Wendy (not her real) name”. This is NOT the woman he told me cheated on me with. He also said “we’ve both cheated a bunch of times” in reference to he and I.
I had kissed another guy earlier in his deployment, he found out and I came clean, but nothing else happened.
Should I confront him about this? Or pretend I never saw it? Because I don’t know that I want to know the answer and I’m pretty sure I’ll leave him if I find out he had an affair before he even left.