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suckstobeme posted 2/18/2014 16:24 PM

When exWH told me he wanted to leave and not be married anymore, he told me he wanted to live a life of freedom. He wanted to drink, play guitar, go to concerts whenever he wanted, etc., etc. He pretty much told me that he wanted to revert to a teenage boy despite our marriage, home, bills, and two small children.

At that time, I think he truly believed that the slunt was his savior. She supported all these ridiculous ideas, staying out late on work nights, getting wasted, following shitty bands around at shitty band festivals. Three years later, it's apparent that she duped his ass real good.

What she really wanted was a daddy for her brats and a roof over her head. That life that he said he didn't want? You know, the one that involves real life and responsibility? This is what he now has ten fold.

Not only did he cut his income in half when I left the picture, but he saddled himself with child support, school loans, secret credit card debt and a tiny house for which he overpaid to the nth degree. Instead of leaving me to hire people to handle the lawn and the driveway while he went out and drank, and instead of having me cook, clean, grocery shop and take care of the kids the majority of the time, guess who gets to do most of that now?

Yes, folks. In exchange for dumping his beautiful home and family, douchebag chose the slunt behind door #1 and now does all the shopping, much of the cleaning, pays for pretty much everything, and takes her brats to school while the slunt sleeps in and bathes at her leisure. When the kids told me they do chores over at dad's house and dad does his own chores, I asked what the slunt does. Their response "she decorates.". She must be a huge help and take a massive load off by hanging the Christmas wreath or putting up St. Patrick's Day garland around the door.

That dumbass got fooled and now lives the life that he deserves - that of a broke, broke down, depressed, middle aged man who gave up everything for absolutely nothing. I suppose I will never understand why they truly believe they can run from themselves, but it seems like that never really works out.

And that concludes our lesson for the day.

nekorb posted 2/18/2014 16:29 PM

Was that the Karma bus I just saw whizzing by?

FirstLoveGone posted 2/18/2014 16:37 PM

Oh how I wish this was the story of XH! Instead, I will live vicariously through you STBM. At least one of our XH's is getting what he deserves!

[This message edited by FirstLoveGone at 4:37 PM, February 18th (Tuesday)]

ExposedNiblet posted 2/18/2014 16:40 PM

Yup, looks like he got what he finally deserved in the end. Doesn't it feel awesome???

(ahem)

What I meant to say is how are YOU doing these days, STBM? (because we all know that the wayward exes no longer matter!) I hope your life is amazing!


I wonder if these fools ever think, even if for a moment, that they fucked up their lives royally...

[This message edited by ExposedNiblet at 4:40 PM, February 18th (Tuesday)]

PhantomLimb posted 2/18/2014 17:48 PM

I wonder if these fools ever think, even if for a moment, that they fucked up their lives royally

I wonder the same thing.

jackie89 posted 2/18/2014 17:55 PM

loved reading your post!

Hope you are doing wonderful.

Gr8Lady posted 2/18/2014 18:06 PM

Wonder how many concerts he attends now?

Got what he deserved!

lilacs40 posted 2/18/2014 18:21 PM

Sounds like he got everything he ever wished for and all that he deserves.

IrishLass518 posted 2/18/2014 18:54 PM

Oh STBM, I could have written your post too. A few different circumstances but all in all, he wanted a single life and no responsibility, he didn't want anyone "checking up on him" or "snooping" into his business. He got a full time babysitter (OWifetress), lost his lucrative business (works for 1/3 of the pay) lost our house (lives in hers) and has far more debt and responsibility. I on the other hand actually got the life he wanted. I am single, I do what I want,when I want and I spend my money how I want. Hmmm, funny how that worked out for him.

Williesmom posted 2/18/2014 19:06 PM

Mine too. I posted last week about how he would spend my bonuses before I even got them. This year, I got a sizable bonus, and just stuck it in savings because I don't need anything, and my bills are all paid up.

He is NOT living the dream.

Smashedat58 posted 2/18/2014 19:13 PM

Your story of your ex makes me happy for you, and hopeful for me.

ruinedandbroken posted 2/18/2014 19:14 PM

HAHAHAHAHA

ruinedandbroken posted 2/18/2014 19:15 PM

HAHAHAHAHA

That karma......It's a bitch!!!!

jemimapd posted 2/18/2014 19:16 PM

I on the other hand actually got the life he wanted. I am single, I do what I want,when I want and I spend my money how I want. Hmmm, funny how that worked out for him.

I have been having exactly this thought recently. Mine threw OW under the bus on D Day so he is reduced to being broke, living in the House of Mold, scanning AM for hook-ups. Oh, and eating Manwich out of a can.

I have more disposable income than ever thanks to not having to subsidize his lazy ass, a great social life, our home to myself with my children and cooking the meals I want to with nicer ingredients than I could afford before because he scoffed down a bucket of food every evening before heading off to the couch.

tryingagain74 posted 2/18/2014 20:42 PM

Yeah, STBM!!!!

And folks, I can personally attest to the two houses... in fact, when I went to STBM's house, I asked her in a rather bewildered fashion, "Is THIS the house he left?"

We promptly burst into laughter. Yeah, he's come down QUITE a bit!

I love these threads. They remind me how much I appreciate my own life and do not want XWH's life or to be back in his life. CommandOwife comes with him to drop off at my house now... maybe XWH loves that, but I would feel SO suffocated if I had a partner who needed to be around me constantly. I have to remember that I get to live my life on my own terms and pretty much come and go when I please on my free time, and THAT is pretty damn awesome.

caregiver9000 posted 2/18/2014 20:46 PM

That dumbass got fooled and now lives the life that he deserves - that of a broke, broke down, depressed, middle aged man who gave up everything for absolutely nothing.

I had this conversation today! I love it!

Phoenix1 posted 2/18/2014 20:51 PM

I wonder if these fools ever think, even if for a moment, that they fucked up their lives royally...

XPOS has told me repeatedly in recent weeks that his life is now totally fucked up, so yes they do think about it. However, he will likely NEVER admit that it is fucked up because of his bad choices! In his mind, he is just a victim of circumstance... um, yeah, okay...

nekorb posted 2/18/2014 21:14 PM

I think this is what is going to happen to my WH.

One of his complaints is that I was controlling. I despute that fact, but anyway, for the point of the story...OW is manipulative, insecure, immature, and I actually saw the words, "that's my good boy." In a text to him.

That's going to get old fast, IMHO. Wish I could have a front row seat for that. How tiring....

dmari posted 2/18/2014 21:21 PM

Thank you THANK YOU for sharing your awesome story!! He is clearly living the life he deserves!

ImEnoughForMe posted 2/18/2014 21:31 PM

But! But! But!!

Is he happpyyyyy???

Lmao, loving this post. Eventually the "fun" runs out.

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