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User Topic: Remodel woes
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Default  Posted: 11:35 PM, February 18th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm getting a new kitchen. I desperately need one. My cabinet doors were literally falling off their hinges. My refrigerator is a Montogomery Ward. Picking out what I wanted was fun. I found some beautiful hickory cabinets and a laminate countertop that is made to look like granite (which is definitely out of our budget). I'm getting a stainless fridge (with and ice maker!), a 5 burner stove with optional convection fan on the oven and a dishwasher (hand washing dishes for 5 is NOT my idea of fun). We are also almost doubling the amount of usable counter top space I have, and I will finally have more than one drawer! As I sit here staring at my house that looks like an episode of hoarders gone horribly wrong and realizing that I've got to feed my 3 kids plus two more tomorrow with no sink or stove functioning in the kitchen and that my in-laws will once again be standing in my kitchen all trying to convince me that what they want to do is best, I just keep reminding myself it is going to be fabulous - if it ever gets finished. *sigh*

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Default  Posted: 2:35 AM, February 19th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I've done a major home remodel while we lived in the house with three very young children. You can do this!

Paper plates & plastic spoons
Eat out

Pictures when you're done!

Me = BS
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - DIVORCED!

Posts: 10722 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA
♀ 38207
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Default  Posted: 7:04 AM, February 19th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Nature_Girl, I don't know how to post pictures. None of mine have a URL and I don't know how to get one for them without them all becoming completely public domain. Yeah. I'm 32 with a bachelors degree and still technically challenged like that.

Oh, and my kids, they're 5, 2 and 10 months. And today I have 2 others (4 and 7). Should be really exciting around here.

[This message edited by musiclovingmom at 7:06 AM, February 19th (Wednesday)]

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Default  Posted: 7:48 AM, February 19th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It is time for a picnic!! PB & J on a sheet in the living room.

Hugs, because after one remodel, I swore to move before I lived through a second.

Me- BS
Him- FWS (I hope- F)

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Default  Posted: 7:50 AM, February 19th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Do you have a grill to cook on ? Paper plates and plastic forks should get you thru this.

Keep thinking about the finish

never ever getting back together

Posts: 233 | Registered: Jul 2010 | From: North Carolina
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Default  Posted: 7:50 AM, February 19th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yikes. Every time you have to look at the current mess, just close your eyes and think about how beautiful it will be. And I think this calls for pizza delivery every night until it is done! Consider it part of the remodel budget.

I am currently having a (rotting) door replaced along with replacing (rotting) siding and painting the exterior. Most of the work is outside but I am still very uptight about it. All of the banging and the dogs barking at the workers is driving me nuts!

Stay strong! It is only a week or two (hopefully no delays!!)

And it's hard to dance with a devil on your back
So shake him off
-- Shake It Out, Florence And The Machine

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Default  Posted: 8:00 AM, February 19th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

We did our kitchen about 10 years ago. We did it in the summer so we could use the grill, eat on the picnic table (in the garage), washed dishes in the bathtub. Not fun, but oh so worth it!

You will find yourself just sitting and admiring your new kitchen!

Love isn't what you say, it's what you do.

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♀ 38207
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Default  Posted: 8:05 AM, February 19th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Believe it or not, feeding everyone is the least of my worries. I'm a master at improvisational cooking. I lived for over a year with two electric burners, a microwave, a crock pot and a griddle. I've got a nice grill - both propane and charcoal. It's just the general chaos that drives me nuts. Well, that and having my in-laws in my house all day long. I'm grateful for their help. And, honestly, if it was just my FIL, I'd be ok. But my MIL is one of those people who tries to take over every project and do what she wants regardless of what anyone else wants (just ask my SIL about her wedding - ugh). I usually try not to involve them if at all possible, but my H had to go out of town today. They got quite a bit done yesterday, but you just can't finish a kitchen in a day.

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Default  Posted: 8:23 AM, February 19th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


I would take advantage of this time and go through all your inventory. Make three separate area's.

1. Keep

2. Donate and/or garage sale

3. Throw away

We did this with every room we remodeled so by the time it was ready for us to move back in, we weren't crowding it up with stuff we didn't need.

I loved all our was so exciting for me, regardless of the chaos

"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)

My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.

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♀ 38207
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Default  Posted: 10:52 PM, February 25th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

We have all the lower cabinets, countertops and appliances installed. Next phase is removing the upper cabinets, painting and replacing the upper cabinets. One whole countertop is covered with tools still, but at least my pots and pans and silverware are no longer living in my living room. It's already so much better than it was. I still can't figure out how to get a picture to post.

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Default  Posted: 8:01 AM, February 26th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I think any time you remodel, it throws the whole house into an uproar, but I think especially the kitchen! It's the main hub of the house really.

I remodeled my bathroom, and couldn't use the shower for like a week. I had to shower at the gym, friends houses, etc. But once it was done, I forgot about how annoying it was!

BW - 40
DD - 7 years old
D-day OW#1 2/2004;D-day OW#2 5/2010
Marriages that start this way, stepping over the bodies of loved ones as the giddy couple walks down the aisle, are not likely to last.

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