Before DDay I didn't really want sex because WH was so emotionally detatched from me. He still wanted it, however, and never understood or would walk away when I would explain that I need more from him than just sex. Needless to say, we weren't having sex.
After DDay, when he finally opened up emotionally, I want sex again! I want it more than he does and it bothers me when he doesn't. We had a fight one time and he had to have sex with me just to shut me up.
I'm getting better at knowing when to initiate and when to back off. But any rejection hurts because the A, has made me insecure. Last night, we didn't have sex but as we were falling asleep talking, I just asked him to hold my hand and that simple contact felt good. Sometimes, if you want sex and he doesn't try a little body contact instead. Ask him to spoon with you in bed or watch tv while cuddling and you might find comfort that way. No orgasm, but the reassurance of his commitment and his love might satisfy you for the moment.
"Your value doesn't decrease based on someone's inability to see your worth." -Unknown Wise Person