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hurtininHouston (original poster member #39250) posted at 2:32 PM on Wednesday, February 19th, 2014
Today is the day one year ago that my wife had sex with another man. Of course I woke up in a bad mood just for that reason. We are still together things are getting better she's trying and doing everything right. Still a shitty day otherwise. Maybe next year on this day it will be better. Next comes the Dday of when i found out April 13. I'll be happy after this whole year is over.
H
bionicgal ( member #39803) posted at 2:39 PM on Wednesday, February 19th, 2014
(((((HIH)))))
We have all either been there, or will be there at some point. I am not looking forward to it, either. Do something nice for yourself today if you can. Reach out to your spouse if you can.
Good luck, and I wish you peace today.
me - BS (45) - DDay - June 2013
A was 2+ months, EA/PA
In MC & Reconciling
"Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point to move forward." -- C.S. Lewis.
Kc121010 ( new member #35855) posted at 3:48 PM on Wednesday, February 19th, 2014
I'm sorry you're going through this! This is not always practical, but what I found helped my D-day antiversary dates was to plan something to erase the bad memory of that day.
My worst trigger date for some reason was the day he met her. I planned a romantic getaway weekend at the beach for the 1 year mark of that date to create a NEW memory. I am now nearing the 2nd year of that date, AND I CANT EVEN REMEMBER WHAT DAY IT WAS! Hurray!! I know it was May, but the specifics have left me.
Do something special for yourselves! I know it's hard, but sometimes you have to force yourself instead of letting the bitterness win. Go out to dinner. Plan a trip for the upcoming D-day. Make new memories!
Good luck! Take care of yourself today.... AND the days ahead.
Me (50)
H (40)
Married 7yrs, Together 12
D-Day Sunday 6/10/2012
Porn D-Day 3/01/2014
(H) had EA, PA for 6 weeks
5 kids, his & mine
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