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User Topic: rant. avoiding court papers.
yestopants
♀ 41631
Member # 41631
Angry  Posted: 11:24 AM, February 19th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He won't pick up the CS and custody paperwork! He's avoiding it! I asked him why and he said please don't judge me...(WHAT?) The papers have been sitting in the post office for over a week. If he doesn't pick them up by friday I have to go to the court again. Looks like my only option is going to be to use a process server (which I will have to borrow money for). He is making this so complicated!!!! I think I was married to a complete idiot?!! So awesome just keeps getting better....
I guess he won't pick them up because I won't help him sort out the finances? He has everything we own and we spent our savings keeping afloat there and he wants me to pay the debt...don't really know how that is fair? I guess I am the difficult one FTG.
This is what I need to remember when I am sad....


Me: 35
STBXWH: 38
2 amazing kids DS DD
almost Divorced!

Posts: 286 | Registered: Dec 2013
Softcentre
39166
Member # 39166
Default  Posted: 11:45 AM, February 19th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Passive resistance. You don't need to judge him, his actions say it all...


Me: BW
Him: STBXWH 'The Arse' - passive aggressive, tt'ing, gaslighting...multiple EA's with different women (1 'proven') and at least 1 PA

Took a while, but I like the me I am, without him.

"Until God opens the next do


Posts: 1102 | Registered: May 2013 | From: UK
yestopants
♀ 41631
Member # 41631
Default  Posted: 12:03 PM, February 19th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

it is making me crazy! He wants this but he can't do anything to follow through?? I am really not good at being angry. I just seem upset, agitated and don't know where to put anything....


Me: 35
STBXWH: 38
2 amazing kids DS DD
almost Divorced!

Posts: 286 | Registered: Dec 2013
Softcentre
39166
Member # 39166
Default  Posted: 12:50 PM, February 19th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

No. He wants it but wants to be able to BLAME you for it too. Remember, YOu are thecause of all his problems....in HIS mind


Me: BW
Him: STBXWH 'The Arse' - passive aggressive, tt'ing, gaslighting...multiple EA's with different women (1 'proven') and at least 1 PA

Took a while, but I like the me I am, without him.

"Until God opens the next do


Posts: 1102 | Registered: May 2013 | From: UK
yestopants
♀ 41631
Member # 41631
Default  Posted: 1:15 PM, February 19th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It is so true...I am so tired of being blamed for everything. I'm thankful for NC, I've been taking it way more seriously...if I start writing too much I stop and think of the best one word or sentence answer then done. I really want to say... WHAT kicking your wife and kids out didn't solve all your problems?? thanks for answer soft centre. I"m so tired, feel crazy and sleep seems to be avoiding me. this shit is exhausting. I don't know how you strong ones got through this...


Me: 35
STBXWH: 38
2 amazing kids DS DD
almost Divorced!

Posts: 286 | Registered: Dec 2013
nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 3:54 PM, February 19th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sweetie - even the strongest ones had the same battles. You get through it step by miserable step. Each millimeter forward is a victory, and you celebrate it like it's a mile.

((((yestopants)))) Sending you strength, honey.


You can call me NIK

"Keep your face always toward the sunshine - and shadows will fall behind you."
-Walt Whitman


Posts: 26193 | Registered: Aug 2011
yestopants
♀ 41631
Member # 41631
Default  Posted: 5:45 PM, February 19th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

nowiknow23- thank you. I thought I was strong, but I am struggling. I didn't know it would be this hard. My heart breaks for everyone here. I never understood how people could be so cruel until my husband lost his soul. My little victory is I am getting better at NC.


Me: 35
STBXWH: 38
2 amazing kids DS DD
almost Divorced!

Posts: 286 | Registered: Dec 2013
Darcy3
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Default  Posted: 6:31 PM, February 19th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Do you have to use a process server? In my state I could have anyone over 18 do it. My brother did it for me.


Me = BS
Him = WS
3 teenagers
Married 24 years
D-Day: Nov. 10, 2012
Divorced

Posts: 45 | Registered: Jun 2013
yestopants
♀ 41631
Member # 41631
Default  Posted: 6:44 PM, February 19th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

he is in another country. I am going to find out if I could use a friend. I'm going to wait till friday and hope he just gets it together. I know wishful thinking.


Me: 35
STBXWH: 38
2 amazing kids DS DD
almost Divorced!

Posts: 286 | Registered: Dec 2013
nowiknow23
♀ 33226
Member # 33226
Default  Posted: 7:21 PM, February 19th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Honey, strength doesn't mean not struggling. It means you keep going and doing what needs to be done even when you are weary and want to give up.

You ARE STRONG.


You can call me NIK

"Keep your face always toward the sunshine - and shadows will fall behind you."
-Walt Whitman


Posts: 26193 | Registered: Aug 2011
yestopants
♀ 41631
Member # 41631
Default  Posted: 7:26 PM, February 19th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm trying like hell to fake it until I make it. just having a rough go. Thank god for SI


Me: 35
STBXWH: 38
2 amazing kids DS DD
almost Divorced!

Posts: 286 | Registered: Dec 2013
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