Hello everyone,
I am new here and was wanting to seek some support and encouragement re my situation......I am hoping that I have come to the right place.
Nearly 7 weeks ago - New Years Eve, my partner of nearly three years emailed me (without ANY warning) whilst my daughter (12) and I were overseas (visiting my grandfather who is terminally ill) that he was ending our relationship. He said that he was depressed and that I was the cause of his depression. He said that he wanted 2014 to be a year of rejuvenation and new beginnings at that meant that doors must close. He said that he felt a lot of worry and pressure and for his own peace of mind he needed to end our relationship. He also said that he only wanted me to contact him by email with any response as he dopes not want any verbal or emotional pressure.
I went into total and ABSOLUTE shock
background - He is 62 - I am divorced - have sole custody of D12 and we have been living with him for just over 2 years. We have been happy but over the last 12 ,months he has been withdrawing emotionally, sex life has dwindled etc etc.
When we returned from visiting our family we were without any where to live - luckily I have found an apartment for D and myself and moved our belongings out of the house nearly 3 weeks ago.
It was while I was moving my things that I found evidence of the fact that he has been having an affair with one of his singing students (mature aged - she is 50, married with 4 children) and literally while D and I were flying back he was in a seedy hotel with her.
I have not seem him or spoken to him since Xmas day 2013.
He has spewed anger and resentment at me but has now been silent since D and I last moved our belongings.
I am devastated - the man I loved and trusted - has cheated on my in such an inhumane way. He has lied and been covert.
I am struggling to make sense of all of this.
He is suddenly caught up with diet, working out, popping nutrition tablets etc etc. He is also doing yoga (OW is a yoga teacher)...
Any advice? Am happy to provide more info if needed!
Many thanks
T x
[This message edited by Tosca at 12:50 PM, February 19th (Wednesday)]