Everyone on SI has passed through a lot of Hell to get here. Those of us in this forum have the sad distinction of being the ones who caused it. Some of us manage to do better and learn to set good examples on the way out of these bad places in our lives. I want to share an example that is worth looking at from the Olympics.
My BW and I have been watching a lot; the Winter Olympics is something that we have always enjoyed greatly. There is a story in the women's Skeleton competition that triggered us both because the husband of one of the athletes did the things that all of us as Waywards didn't.
The American, Noelle Pikus-Pace has been doing skeleton for a long time. I won't go into all of the details of her story for fear of not doing it justice, but she has had a rough time of it. Big injuries when a bobsled jumped the track and broke both her leg and her skeleton sled, raising a family while being an Olympic caliber athlete, having a miscarriage after retiring. Her husband saw her through all of this. He helped her heal, used his company to fabricate a new sled for her, pulled all the weight that needed to be pulled while she trained. He encouraged her to get back into her sport after her miscarriage as a way of healing. That man was there for her every step of the way through all of the amazingly hard times.
He was there for her in the stands with their children when she did the truly amazing and won silver after long years of heartache and hard work.
Folks, we didn't do that. We moved our support someplace else for all of our various reasons and tripped our spouses instead of raising them up. We did what we did and have to atone for that. It won't be easy for any of us and it's a job of work. On top of that, though, we need to figure out what we are going to do in the future. Are we going to raise them up or are we going to trip them? Don't misunderstand, there isn't much glory in this, it's just what you do. Child care, paying the bills, supporting when it's hard, fixing the broken things, even when you didn't break them. Remaining true, especially when it's not about you.
I'm not crazy about some of the intrusion into the athletes' lives that goes on during this coverage but I admit that seeing, by proxy anyway, the support that Mr. Pace gave his wife is a potent reminder of what I should have done all along and what I am for damned sure going to do in the future.