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why do I feel this way all of sudden?.. need support please..

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 tara1110 (original poster member #41202) posted at 2:08 AM on Thursday, February 20th, 2014

STBX is on deployment since January and while he's overseas having the time of my life with his bitch, I am packing my stuff and getting ready to move to a different state in a week. ( with my son and 2dogs). Going through our stuff and finding old pictures and letters just made me feel worse again for the past 3 days that I found myself crying and just hurting again. I know it's only been 7 months since dday and it just sucks that the pain still hits me....And I guess with all the stress from the move while working full time and caring for my 2yr old and my dogs... I'm just tired physically, and emotionally and I just want all of these to be over. I'm just tired of feeling this way...

Me BS:34
H WS: 28
OW: 33 (butter face... Thanks to sistermilkshake for the nickname)
Dday: July 24, 2013 (5 days after our 5th wedding anniversary)
7yrs together, married for 5 yrs
Status: divorcing

posts: 86   ·   registered: Nov. 2nd, 2013   ·   location: North Carolina
id 6693041
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Nature_Girl ( member #32554) posted at 2:19 AM on Thursday, February 20th, 2014

(((HUGS)))

Do you have anyone who can come over & help you? Or at least keep you company while you pack?

I think you feel this way because you're exhausted from being strong for so long. Put another way, you're human and are going through a terrible trial. I'm sorry.

Me = BS
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - DIVORCED!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wJgjyDFfJuU

posts: 10722   ·   registered: Jun. 21st, 2011   ·   location: USA
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Must Survive ( member #34533) posted at 2:26 AM on Thursday, February 20th, 2014

Tara,

Even a mother's helper to watch the toddler would help! Packing is hard enough without a little one. And if it were me, I don't think I would dig too deep in the memories. Pack them up in boxes, labeled, and you can open them when you are stronger. Or you never have to open them.

Me BS
WS: Just a squished bug on the window of my life!
Divorced-Let my new beginning start

They have a choice: they can live in my new world, or they can die in their old one." — Daenerys Targaryen

posts: 1066   ·   registered: Jan. 13th, 2012   ·   location: Must Survive
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 tara1110 (original poster member #41202) posted at 2:48 AM on Thursday, February 20th, 2014

I'm very lucky to have a few good friends who knows my story and they've been very helpful with the move. ( from watching my son for a few hours so I can run errands to offering to cook us dinner since I'm busy doing stuff around the house) I'm also moving closer to my 2 sisters and that would be good for my son so he can grow up with his cousins.

STBX didn't do shit before he left. He just packed his bags and left for deployment. He left a lot of his old stuff that I already got rid of ( sold them on craigslist and donated them. I guess he was expecting me to change my mind about the move but nope... Got a new job waiting, lease for the house has been signed and scheduled to move next Wednesday.... Sigh... I can't wait for next Thursday to come and just start anew....

[This message edited by tara1110 at 8:51 PM, February 19th (Wednesday)]

Me BS:34
H WS: 28
OW: 33 (butter face... Thanks to sistermilkshake for the nickname)
Dday: July 24, 2013 (5 days after our 5th wedding anniversary)
7yrs together, married for 5 yrs
Status: divorcing

posts: 86   ·   registered: Nov. 2nd, 2013   ·   location: North Carolina
id 6693085
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BAB61 ( member #41181) posted at 5:35 AM on Thursday, February 20th, 2014

From one milspouse to another....WOOOOHOOO! Glad you have a job and are moving close to family ....(((tara1110)))

Boss A** B*tch
BS/52 Me, STBXpos/56, dd's 16&14
1st D-day 10/19/2013 EA/PA
2nd D-day 12/7/2013 LTA/Rendezvous
S 12/7/2013 No-fault state, 6 mo S, counting down the days.

posts: 1271   ·   registered: Oct. 31st, 2013   ·   location: DE
id 6693238
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wannabenormal ( member #19772) posted at 6:24 AM on Thursday, February 20th, 2014

((tara)) I honestly think you're holding up remarkably well with raising a toddler, working F/T, a pet AND a move on top of the marital ickiness. And to me, 7 months in isn't 'that' long so know you are normal.



posts: 15096   ·   registered: Jun. 4th, 2008
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newlysingle ( member #38735) posted at 6:39 AM on Thursday, February 20th, 2014

I'm a year out and far from normal. I'm really hoping that this move helps you heal. Maybe being in a new space, new job, etc. will help you heal from all the toxicity of your old life.

BW - Me (40)
XWH -The Gnat
"Engaged" to OW, but the wedding appears to be indefinitely postponed.
M for 8 years, together for 10
1 DD (8), 1 DS (3)
Dday 3/13
Happily Divorced 9/20/13

posts: 1273   ·   registered: Mar. 17th, 2013   ·   location: AZ
id 6693280
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