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aero1122 (original poster member #41575) posted at 3:53 AM on Thursday, February 20th, 2014
So we have been planning to go visit a relative next week. It is a long drive (we are taking 2 days because of the kids) I don't know how I am going to handle being with him all day in a confined space with the kids who don't know anything. I am still on the roller coaster every day and don't know how much I can hide from the kids.
I am going from sad to pissed off constantly.
This sux
Any advice would be appreciated.
Me-35
WH-36
Together 18 years
Married 7 years
2 kids
D-day 12-7-13
Both currently in counseling
Trying to R
I am a warrior!
I will survive and thrive!
scarednbroken ( member #41961) posted at 5:06 AM on Thursday, February 20th, 2014
I guess I am a veteran at this part. I have been hiding it for many years. It is hard. The best days I manage to not take frustrations out on kids. The worst - he gets biting comments to knock is ego down a few notches.
How? Deep breaths. I also made a list of reasons why I can not blow up and out. What are the positive outcomes to keeping my cool. And the repercussions if I do not.
This is new for you and the pain is fresh. If you feel yourself about to let go - take 10 slow deep breaths, the count backward from 20. And envision your list (or read it). And see if you are calm.
I also ask for exercise breaks. Get out of the confined space and walk about. Breathe.
BS: Me 47 WH: 54 Kids: 17, 19, 21, 32 DD: every yr Ow: tons Status: fed-up. A woman should never invest in a relationship she wouldn't want for her daughter, nor should she allow any man to treat her in a way she would scold her son for
momentintime ( member #16394) posted at 6:09 AM on Thursday, February 20th, 2014
Play a audio book to keep everyone entertained.
BS-me FWS - him
D-day 8/04
R'd
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Livingalie2014 ( member #42332) posted at 6:29 AM on Thursday, February 20th, 2014
So sorry to hear that. That's a lot of togetherness so soon after your discovery. Its totally normal to be on a daily roller coaster, my counselor said to just go with your feelings. It might be best if you sat together with your 2 year old, and have your 14 year old sit in front with your WS. Hope everything works out for you.
In three words I can sum up everything I learned about life: It goes on - Robert Frost
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