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How would your SO answer?

What do you like about me?

Mine: "I like your company, except it's boring."

right now...... I am drawing a complete blank

Funny thing is I opened up the respond window thinking I had a response..... and now realizing I don't.....

Where I am at in all of this I am not sure I can answer this in truth right now... becuase I truly don't know anymore.

Are you asking how our ws would answer the question given by bs..what do you like about me?

If that's the question, its interesting that not so long ago I asked him this question. He was squirming around, so uncomfortable..he shrugged and said, idk. Again I asked, this time he said, your weird, what do you mean? 3rd times a charm, when I said, you've known me for 30 fucking years, just tell me one thing....drum roll...uhnnm your a really good cook. All the guys are jealous at work when they see my lunches. Awww true love

(((justme29)))

That stings and smarts. I hope this was a response whilst he was 'head up arse', or more genteely put - foggy.

If not, wow, what are you going to decide? Can you live with that opinion that your WH has of you?

No rush to make a decision, its all about you now and what you need.

((Extra hugs))

Your wallet.

He'd probably answer: That you don't want to go to prison for killing them"...

I have asked this. He said something along the lines of "You're very smart, easy to talk to, compassionate, fun to be around, like all the same things I do, and you're beautiful."

The sad part is once upon a time I had a list similar to that for him....it has changed now. Now when I ask myself what I like about him...I often draw a blank. I once thought the world of him, now I see all the ugly.

My situation is just like yours, C1131716.

Mine too, started with he likes how smart I am and that we like to do the same things, that he likes spending time with me, that I have a good heart...

I asked myself right now about him and the best I can come up with truthfully is I like his penis.

God, I've derailed.

I asked myself right now about him and the best I can come up with truthfully is I like his penis.

The good news is all men have one so that is easily replaceable!

Ostrich80. That was exactly how it went. I asked several times. Like "you can't think of 1 thing you like about me, why are we together" Then he came up with that. I took it like if I wasn't boring he would like my company. So there is still not a thing he likes about me.

This was some time ago but I don't know any different now. He does say he likes me. I didn't get any better answer at a time I believe we were happy.

When I was pregnant with my oldest, she's 21, the question was asked at prenatal classes. The group was in a circle and we were first on the one side so we were asked first. "What would you like your baby to get from your spouse?" So he was put on the spot and couldn't think of anything. We went around the room and everyone had something. Came back to him and nope still nothing. And that was when I believed he did love me.

Me I've always had a list of what I like about him. Always up on the list was that he made friends and he kept them. Now that is bothering me. He said she was "just a friend".

Even if my WH answered it, I would not believe him. He's a liar.

((((justme29))))

What an awful thing to hear.

He likes having you as his victim more than anything else I am afraid.

Please, please, know you are so much more than that. He is putting you down so your self-worth isn't strong enough to leave. It is classic manipulative emotional abuse.

[This message edited by norabird at 2:45 PM, February 21st (Friday)]

He said he likes that I am loyal, that if i say I dont like you I mean it, but dont have to be disrespectful to the person (indifferent). He said I make him happy, that I am a powerful partner, I fill in his blanks, know alot about sports, am a good mom and a good cook.

Meanwhile...OW well, is a drama filled dumsel in distress, but this is where your "heart" is..

Boy bye....

Sad, I draw a blank about what I like about him too.

My answer was Chocolate, but since I read the remaining portion of the question, it's changed.

I think my STBX could not find one thing to like about me right now. Since I am D'ing his ass he's the victim (poor, poor pitiful cheating liar!) in all this.

Ironically the one thing that I would have said I liked about him prior to D-day was his honesty. Now I know he's a damn good actor!

ETA: Ask him if he thinks boring is a good thing. Some people think of boring as so not the drama ... just a thought.

[This message edited by BAB61 at 3:57 PM, February 21st (Friday)]