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User Topic: DD is so stinkin' sweet
♀ 38735
Member # 38735
Default  Posted: 10:59 PM, February 19th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

At bedtime tonight, DD asked me if I thought I'd get re-married. I said that I didn't know, but it might happen in the future if I met the right person. She then asked if I would marry dad again. I said no,that dad didn't treat me well, broke promises and really hurt my feelings. I said that if I got re-married I would want someone kind, honest, treated me well, etc.
She then said, I really hope you find someone like that, mommy.

I almost teared up. We always have to walk that fine line of being truthful, but not badmouthing the other parent. I'm really hoping that I didn't badmouth him, but I couldn't not tell her why I wouldn't marry him again. I always tell her that he loves her though and just made bad choices in his marriage.

BW - Me (40)
XWH -The Gnat
"Engaged" to OW, but the wedding appears to be indefinitely postponed.
M for 8 years, together for 10
1 DD (8), 1 DS (3)
Dday 3/13
Happily Divorced 9/20/13

Posts: 1268 | Registered: Mar 2013 | From: AZ
♀ 31349
Member # 31349
Default  Posted: 11:11 PM, February 19th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Poor sweetheart. There's such kindness in her. Good job, mama.

"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." - Deeply Scared's mom

Posts: 29076 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: California
♀ 39696
Member # 39696
Default  Posted: 11:19 PM, February 19th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I think you handled it very well.

Me = BS
Him = WS
3 teenagers
Married 24 years
D-Day: Nov. 10, 2012

Posts: 62 | Registered: Jun 2013
♀ 41181
Member # 41181
Default  Posted: 11:24 PM, February 19th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You told her the truth, age appropriately....well done! ((Newlysingle&dd)))

Boss A** B*tch
BS/52 Me, STBXpos/56, dd's 16&14
1st D-day 10/19/2013 EA/PA
2nd D-day 12/7/2013 LTA/Rendezvous
S 12/7/2013 No-fault state, 6 mo S, counting down the days.

Posts: 1271 | Registered: Oct 2013 | From: DE
♂ 38122
Member # 38122
Default  Posted: 9:25 AM, February 20th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You handled it well. And yes, so stinkin' sweet!

My boys have asked me on several occasions if they can DJ my next wedding. I think that may be the 10 and 13-year-old equivalent of this conversation.

Me: 1970
Two sons: 2000 and 2003
Cheating louse: What's her name again?

Married Aug/95
DDay Nov/12
Separated Mar/13
Finally divorced Jul/17

The best thing about hitting rock bottom is that everything after that looks fucking fabulous!

Posts: 3623 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Ontario, Canada
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