Has this happened to anyone?
Part of this process is self-exploration. I know that I'm not the same person and my FWH is definitely not who I thought he was.
My counselor's biggest concern is my finding something that makes me happy and distracts me from obsessing about the cheating. (I've had major health issues that limited my physical activity for a long time.) Now that I am able to be more mobile, it's becoming easier.
You have enough to be concerned about. If you're not comfortable with your counselor, you may want to look into finding one who is a better fit.
I think him saying that was what gave me a real courage to be utterly sure that if needed, I would not only be Ok without FWH, but I would thrive. That changed a lot for me, mentally.
D-Day, June 10, 2012
BS: me 42
Married 18 years
D-day - 1/11/14
Filed - 1/16/14
Walked in on WH and BF while her H watched