I met a guy about 4.5 years ago. My boys were 6 and 4. We moved in together after a year of dating. We've been married for almost 2 years now. My H, Aussie adores the boys. He doesn't have any kids of his own.
He's been to the ER for a screaming 3 yr old, on Christmas Eve, for a horrible ear infection. He's helped clean puke off the wall, after the child on the top bunk couldn't make it down in time. He's coached football. He's had empty t-shirt drawers because little monsters stole his Halo shirts to sleep in. Last weekend, he stayed home with them, and their friends so i could take a newly single friend out for Valentine's Day. He's carried sleeping 10 yr olds in from the car, and shouted it was bedtime to the half dozen boys sleeping over, and laid in bed beside me smiling when we heard them whispering still 20 minutes later. He's tripped over his tools left in the yard, and taught them to use the snow blower, the power drill, and the lawn mower. He's held them on his lap or let them climb in bed with us when thunderstorms had them scared. He's afraid of water, and when we vacation on the beach, he'll go out as far as the kids will, because they asked him to. When the kids hear the garage door open, I can't beat them into his hugs, they win every time. You would never be able to prove they aren't his.
This quote from Weatherly on Libertyrock's thread had me literally in tears.
Where are the father's like this?
I see them on this board but they are betrayed by their WW's.
My dad voluntarily turned his back on his 6 children and 4 grandchildren because my eldest sister told him that she didn't approve of his "relationship" with his married "travel buddy". He cut ties with us and hasn't spoken to any one of us in over 10 years.
I have almost 10 year old twin girls that he has never met. They have never met their grandfather. I also never met my mother's father (my grandfather now deceased) due to the circumstances between my mother and him. He was divorced from my grandmother in the 1940's!!
X is engaged to his former girlfriend from 25 years ago. She divorced her husband last year to become engaged and has custody of her 11 or 12 year old son.
Her X pays support and her parents take care of the boy. She apparently has said she's not much of a mother (ya think?)
X lives here in Canada and she lives in Switzerland. They have no plans (that I know of) to rectify this situation.
I found out this week that X is currently in Switzerland babysitting her son while she is on a business trip so that X and the boy can "bond".
This is a man who has twin girls that he saw 3% of the time last year with a grand total of 5 overnights for 2013.
This is the man who takes them only when his parents are around to actually take care of them.
This is the man who lied and told his kids that he was going back to his home country "sometime in February" to do and internship and look for a job.
This is the man who never tells me when he is in town or out of town.
This is a man who pays CS from his father's bank account so that it doesn't affect his credit rating.
This is a man who pays for extracurriculars sporadically but at least he eventually does pay.
He has no life insurance that benefits the girls.
He has never paid one cent into the RESP that I have for them (post secondary education fund).
This man is not a dad.
He is a sperm donor.
I am furious that he is becoming a father to a child when he has 2 of his own.
Who can do this?
What kind of broken do you have to be to be this kind of monster?
How do I know the girls will be ok when he does see them with such a man as this?
FTG a million times.
What a complete and total waste of human skin.
[This message edited by Lola2kids at 10:19 AM, February 20th (Thursday)]
