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User Topic: confused on hysterical bonding and personal boundaries for you
ionlytalkedtoher
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Default  Posted: 10:03 AM, February 20th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


[This message edited by ionlytalkedtoher at 1:03 PM, March 30th (Sunday)]


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veronique12
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Default  Posted: 10:14 AM, February 20th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hi, I'm confused about your situation. You don't want a D, but it sounds like you don't want R either if you're making an effort not to talk or trying to only talk about the kids.

To me, sounds like you want to be close with him if you're feeling the urge to HB. You want the reassurance. Why are you not trying to communicate your feelings to him? Is he interested in pursuing R?


BW: me (38)
WH: 43
OW: false "friend"
D-Day: 11/29/13 (4 month EA discovered); 12/19/13 (discovered was also PA); TT thru 2/14
Married: 2001; Together for nearly 20 years
2 beautiful young kids

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Lovedyoumore
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Default  Posted: 10:14 AM, February 20th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

What is your goal? What is your spouse's goal? If R is not a possibility then I would meet with a mediator to help set up some house rules as well as personal rules. That would include putting the brakes on HB. Being intimate or just flat out having sex is confusing for you and is sending the wrong message to your SO. Are you working on a plan or have you given up on R?


Me 52
WH 52
Married 30+ years
Together trying to R

I tell people I am tired but really my heart is broken and I am sad.


Posts: 1611 | Registered: May 2012 | From: Southern, bless your heart
ionlytalkedtoher
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ionlytalkedtoher
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Default  Posted: 10:22 AM, February 20th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

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