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ionlytalkedtoher posted 2/20/2014 10:03 AM

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veronique12 posted 2/20/2014 10:14 AM

Hi, I'm confused about your situation. You don't want a D, but it sounds like you don't want R either if you're making an effort not to talk or trying to only talk about the kids.

To me, sounds like you want to be close with him if you're feeling the urge to HB. You want the reassurance. Why are you not trying to communicate your feelings to him? Is he interested in pursuing R?

Lovedyoumore posted 2/20/2014 10:14 AM

What is your goal? What is your spouse's goal? If R is not a possibility then I would meet with a mediator to help set up some house rules as well as personal rules. That would include putting the brakes on HB. Being intimate or just flat out having sex is confusing for you and is sending the wrong message to your SO. Are you working on a plan or have you given up on R?

ionlytalkedtoher posted 2/20/2014 10:17 AM

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ionlytalkedtoher posted 2/20/2014 10:22 AM

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