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Divorce Costs?

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 libertyrocks (original poster member #38924) posted at 4:55 PM on Thursday, February 20th, 2014

So, I'm shopping around, I meet with a D lawyer who says it will be $1500. Ok, then call another in a different city, $700. I drive by a place in a not-so-good area and it's $399!! I'm uber confused now. I KNOW there's a lot of additional costs if we can't agree, but I think our D will be a little easier.

Me-37 Ws-37
2 kids
Dday Nov 2012, TT for a year.
Reconciling for the third time in 4 years.

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SeanFLA ( member #32380) posted at 4:59 PM on Thursday, February 20th, 2014

Sorry but don't think I'd want a divorce that only cost me $400. Something has to give for those kinds of prices.

Depending what you want out of it, I think you get what you pay for.

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WW 52
1 son 20 yrs old
Married 18 yrs, together 21 yrs

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sparkysable ( member #3703) posted at 4:59 PM on Thursday, February 20th, 2014

$1,500 is about a normal price that a lawyer would ask for a retainer. It may cost more, it may cost less. It depends on how the divorce goes. Most will let you make payments along the way.

I would never rely on a lawyer that advertises $399 divorces.

D-day OW#1 2/2004;D-day OW#2 5/2010
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StillLivin ( member #40229) posted at 5:23 PM on Thursday, February 20th, 2014

Come to the West coast!

In my town, no L will take less than $3000 and the consult usually costs money.

I paid $3200 for LS. Just dropped $2900 to take it to D. But, I may get $1000 back if he doesn't contest.

You do NOT want a L that is too cheap. Better to beg, borrow, and steal for a better L.

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Nature_Girl ( member #32554) posted at 6:36 PM on Thursday, February 20th, 2014

You have kids together, right? I don't see how you're going to get a D without dropping a couple thousand.

Me = BS
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - DIVORCED!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wJgjyDFfJuU

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Chrysalis123 ( member #27148) posted at 6:51 PM on Thursday, February 20th, 2014

You need to find out what the hourly cost is. The retainer is a lump sum you pay up front that the lawyer will take the hourly fee out. Ask exactly what types of contact they charge for. My current lawyer doesn't charge for brief emails to me for instance. But if he writes a lengthy response I am charged.

You get what you pay for. Even though my divorce was expensive, it was money very well spent that will benefit my kids forever.

[This message edited by Chrysalis123 at 12:58 PM, February 20th (Thursday)]

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TrustedHer ( member #23328) posted at 7:54 PM on Thursday, February 20th, 2014

There's an old joke with a grain of truth to it.

"Know why divorce is so expensive?"

"Because it's worth it."

Here in Illinois, a typical retainer is 2 to 3 thousand, and should be enough to cover a simple divorce at $250/hour. That's the majority of cases not involving personality disorders or bitter custody battles.

I'm at about $10,000 so far, including the judge-ordered fees I paid for the X's attorney.

There were no kids involved in my divorce, but my case is definitely an outlier on the more expensive end.

If you're a SAHM or there's a bid difference in incomes, there's a good chance you can get some of your legal fees paid in the settlement.

Take care of yourself. There's a great future out there. It won't come to you; you have to go to it.

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Phoenix1 ( member #38928) posted at 8:42 PM on Thursday, February 20th, 2014

The going rate in my state is $300-$350 per hour, and the upfront retainer varies but is usually in the $2,000 range. The more successful and well established attorneys generally charge more, and some of the newer, inexperienced will charge a little less (at least here). Some will let you draw up the papers and they will review for you, cutting your costs more. You need to really ask what their detailed charges are (per hour rate, do they charge for every communication in 15 minute increments/30 minute increments, is court time rate different, etc.) as well as their background in terms of success in their cases.

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Xhole - Multiple LTAs/2 OCs over 20+yrs
Adult Kids
Happily divorced!

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WestMonroe91 ( member #41999) posted at 8:55 PM on Thursday, February 20th, 2014

My retainer for a non-waiver D is $1500. However, if it is contested, I was advised upfront that the total would be about $3500.

L charges $375 hr. and any communication is in 15 minute increments.

I am hoping that for my cost, the old adage will work, you know, "you get what you pay for."

BS-60 (me)
WS-49
DD-25, DS-21, DS-20

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LisaP ( member #15088) posted at 10:09 PM on Thursday, February 20th, 2014

My cost for a fairly simple divorce...$14,000. He dug his feet in a little and acted like an ass on occasion, but we came to an agreement outside of the courtroom.

I am a SAHM, put down a retainer of $3,000 and paid my own attorney fees. We have kids and the standard assets (house, 401k, savings, etc) In the end, I got what I needed.

Me BS

Divorced!

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BrighterFuture ( member #38914) posted at 10:14 PM on Thursday, February 20th, 2014

I have a question on this topic, 'does a person still need a lawyer if you can agree on everything?'

Me:30
Him:31
D-day:2/24/13 (I was 10 weeks pregnant at the time and DS was 15 months)
Status: Parted ways!

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Abbondad ( member #37898) posted at 11:01 PM on Thursday, February 20th, 2014

libertyrocks,

As others have said, "You get what you pay for."

From the very beginning, when I decided to file, I resigned myself to the fact that this will cost me; it likely will liquidate me for awhile. But as another SI member once told me, "What price peace?"

My attorney is expensive--and worth it: $3000.00 upfront retainer, $300.00 per hour. She is smart, incredibly knowledgeable of family law (35 years experience), sensible, but aggressive when need be.

I asked her when I filed, "How much will this hurt me financially?" She replied, "Abbondad, it's going to hurt." And it has. But not nearly as much as I and my children have been hurt by STBX. They are worth all the money in the world. I have a good secure job, and time enough to find a second one if need be. I will live in a cave if I have to; it will be a stable, safe and loving cave.

So really, libertyrocks, don't hold back. Money comes and goes. This is incredibly important as you know.

Divorced April Fool's Day 2014

Fear is the mind-killer.Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration.I will face my fear.I will permit it to pass over me and through me.-Dune

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scarednbroken ( member #41961) posted at 1:27 AM on Friday, February 21st, 2014

Because of the sensitivities of my D. I was quoted a retainer of 3000. When that was exhausted it would be additional pmts.

BS: Me 47 WH: 54 Kids: 17, 19, 21, 32 DD: every yr Ow: tons Status: fed-up. A woman should never invest in a relationship she wouldn't want for her daughter, nor should she allow any man to treat her in a way she would scold her son for

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scarednbroken ( member #41961) posted at 1:30 AM on Friday, February 21st, 2014

Brighter future - for your protections. Yes!!!!! Individual lawyers.

BS: Me 47 WH: 54 Kids: 17, 19, 21, 32 DD: every yr Ow: tons Status: fed-up. A woman should never invest in a relationship she wouldn't want for her daughter, nor should she allow any man to treat her in a way she would scold her son for

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crisp ( member #34236) posted at 1:40 AM on Friday, February 21st, 2014

Lawyer here.

You get what you pay for.

Is not always true. You first have to identify the issues in your divorce. Are there going to be disputes? Custody? Spousal support? Property valuations? Every contested matter adds $ to the case.

If there are no contested issues and no significant assets to administer, I would definitely go for the self help or the $399 deal. If there are going to be multiple or big $ issues, serious research as to competence and compatibility of counsel is needed.

[This message edited by crisp at 7:41 PM, February 20th (Thursday)]

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 libertyrocks (original poster member #38924) posted at 3:43 PM on Friday, February 21st, 2014

Thank you so much everyone! I'm going to sell my wedding ring to pay for the divorce!

Thanks for advice, Crisp.

Great.(sarcastic) Part of me just wants to get it over with. But, I invested $15k in his business that failed. Grrr. I'd rather take it as a loss and have a simple D. We have no property or assets, just a lot of debt. I know he doesn't want the boys, has no place for them, is an alcoholic, and I don't think he would fight for them like I will. He can see them whenever he wants, that's not a problem. Plus, we still have mutual debt that I'm totally screwed on, because EVERYTHING under my name. He doesn't even have a checking account. Man, I picked a winner. lol. Lord knows I didn't marry for looks or money. I married for love... :(

[This message edited by libertyrocks at 12:22 PM, February 21st (Friday)]

Me-37 Ws-37
2 kids
Dday Nov 2012, TT for a year.
Reconciling for the third time in 4 years.

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