Depending what you want out of it, I think you get what you pay for.
"You never know how strong you are until being strong is the only choice you have." ~ Bob Marley
I would never rely on a lawyer that advertises $399 divorces.
You get what you pay for. Even though my divorce was expensive, it was money very well spent that will benefit my kids forever.
[This message edited by Chrysalis123 at 12:58 PM, February 20th (Thursday)]
"Know why divorce is so expensive?"
"Because it's worth it."
Here in Illinois, a typical retainer is 2 to 3 thousand, and should be enough to cover a simple divorce at $250/hour. That's the majority of cases not involving personality disorders or bitter custody battles.
I'm at about $10,000 so far, including the judge-ordered fees I paid for the X's attorney.
There were no kids involved in my divorce, but my case is definitely an outlier on the more expensive end.
If you're a SAHM or there's a bid difference in incomes, there's a good chance you can get some of your legal fees paid in the settlement.
I am a SAHM, put down a retainer of $3,000 and paid my own attorney fees. We have kids and the standard assets (house, 401k, savings, etc) In the end, I got what I needed.
~Feel your emotions, but control your behavior~ Unknown
"If only I can fight just a little longer, I know it's gonna make me stronger" Jamie Grace-Holding on.
As others have said, "You get what you pay for."
From the very beginning, when I decided to file, I resigned myself to the fact that this will cost me; it likely will liquidate me for awhile. But as another SI member once told me, "What price peace?"
My attorney is expensive--and worth it: $3000.00 upfront retainer, $300.00 per hour. She is smart, incredibly knowledgeable of family law (35 years experience), sensible, but aggressive when need be.
I asked her when I filed, "How much will this hurt me financially?" She replied, "Abbondad, it's going to hurt." And it has. But not nearly as much as I and my children have been hurt by STBX. They are worth all the money in the world. I have a good secure job, and time enough to find a second one if need be. I will live in a cave if I have to; it will be a stable, safe and loving cave.
So really, libertyrocks, don't hold back. Money comes and goes. This is incredibly important as you know.
Fear is the mind-killer.
Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration.
I will face my fear.
I will permit it to pass over me and through me.
You get what you pay for.
If there are no contested issues and no significant assets to administer, I would definitely go for the self help or the $399 deal. If there are going to be multiple or big $ issues, serious research as to competence and compatibility of counsel is needed.
[This message edited by crisp at 7:41 PM, February 20th (Thursday)]
Thanks for advice, Crisp.
Great.(sarcastic) Part of me just wants to get it over with. But, I invested $15k in his business that failed. Grrr. I'd rather take it as a loss and have a simple D. We have no property or assets, just a lot of debt. I know he doesn't want the boys, has no place for them, is an alcoholic, and I don't think he would fight for them like I will. He can see them whenever he wants, that's not a problem. Plus, we still have mutual debt that I'm totally screwed on, because EVERYTHING under my name. He doesn't even have a checking account. Man, I picked a winner. lol. Lord knows I didn't marry for looks or money. I married for love... :(
[This message edited by libertyrocks at 12:22 PM, February 21st (Friday)]