Depending what you want out of it, I think you get what you pay for.
"You never know how strong you are until being strong is the only choice you have." ~ Bob Marley
I would never rely on a lawyer that advertises $399 divorces.
Marriages that start this way, stepping over the bodies of loved ones as the giddy couple walks down the aisle, are not likely to last.
You get what you pay for. Even though my divorce was expensive, it was money very well spent that will benefit my kids forever.
[This message edited by Chrysalis123 at 12:58 PM, February 20th (Thursday)]
"Know why divorce is so expensive?"
"Because it's worth it."
Here in Illinois, a typical retainer is 2 to 3 thousand, and should be enough to cover a simple divorce at $250/hour. That's the majority of cases not involving personality disorders or bitter custody battles.
I'm at about $10,000 so far, including the judge-ordered fees I paid for the X's attorney.
There were no kids involved in my divorce, but my case is definitely an outlier on the more expensive end.
If you're a SAHM or there's a bid difference in incomes, there's a good chance you can get some of your legal fees paid in the settlement.
This above all: to thine own self be true, and it must follow, as the night the day, thou canst not then be false to any man ~ Shakespeare, Hamlet
I am a SAHM, put down a retainer of $3,000 and paid my own attorney fees. We have kids and the standard assets (house, 401k, savings, etc) In the end, I got what I needed.
~Feel your emotions, but control your behavior~ Unknown
"If only I can fight just a little longer, I know it's gonna make me stronger" Jamie Grace-Holding on.
As others have said, "You get what you pay for."
From the very beginning, when I decided to file, I resigned myself to the fact that this will cost me; it likely will liquidate me for awhile. But as another SI member once told me, "What price peace?"
My attorney is expensive--and worth it: $3000.00 upfront retainer, $300.00 per hour. She is smart, incredibly knowledgeable of family law (35 years experience), sensible, but aggressive when need be.
I asked her when I filed, "How much will this hurt me financially?" She replied, "Abbondad, it's going to hurt." And it has. But not nearly as much as I and my children have been hurt by STBX. They are worth all the money in the world. I have a good secure job, and time enough to find a second one if need be. I will live in a cave if I have to; it will be a stable, safe and loving cave.
So really, libertyrocks, don't hold back. Money comes and goes. This is incredibly important as you know.
Fear is the mind-killer.
Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration.
I will face my fear.
I will permit it to pass over me and through me.
You get what you pay for.
If there are no contested issues and no significant assets to administer, I would definitely go for the self help or the $399 deal. If there are going to be multiple or big $ issues, serious research as to competence and compatibility of counsel is needed.
[This message edited by crisp at 7:41 PM, February 20th (Thursday)]
Thanks for advice, Crisp.
Great.(sarcastic) Part of me just wants to get it over with. But, I invested $15k in his business that failed. Grrr. I'd rather take it as a loss and have a simple D. We have no property or assets, just a lot of debt. I know he doesn't want the boys, has no place for them, is an alcoholic, and I don't think he would fight for them like I will. He can see them whenever he wants, that's not a problem. Plus, we still have mutual debt that I'm totally screwed on, because EVERYTHING under my name. He doesn't even have a checking account. Man, I picked a winner. lol. Lord knows I didn't marry for looks or money. I married for love... :(
[This message edited by libertyrocks at 12:22 PM, February 21st (Friday)]