NikkiD I am soooo not laughing AT you but with you. Gosh I get you girl.
These things will plague you for a little while. You are strong, you will toss it off soon.
I have come to realize my STBX is similar in some ways to yours (and many others on SI).
He needed someone to save.
Brandon808 pointed it out to me one time. Your/My/Our WSs were originally drawn to our strengths because they don't have it. However, it is that same strength they were drawn to that now intimidates them. Makes them almost envy us for it because they don't have it.
These nasty sluts are pathetic. They will NEVER feel inferior to them.
Like me, You don't NEED a man. And you can handle yourself...I suspect you might even be more feisty than I!
It's because of their lack of self worth and self esteem (FOO issues and all ya know), that they need someone strong. I'm also willing to bet he mirrored a lot of your strengths in the beginning. When you don't have true conviction or true inner strength, someone else's conviction and strength becomes intimidating.
Like you, I don't give a "fyck" what his issues were, he has a brain...the one in his head! Get over himself already.
He acts like what he did is your fault, because in his simple brained self, it is your fault. You made him feel bad about himself.
To a strong person, that shit don't float! Meh, he is an idjat!